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Sdcoct1989
Sdcoct1989

OK here goes my husband and I have been together for the last 10 years. He is a hard working amazing man and I love him very much. I told him what I went through as a child and teenager (sexually abused) and he understands so he don't pressure me about making love. I found out I have a Skin disease that causes boils to form on the skin and I'm in pain all day mostly everyday. When we do have sex either I'm not into it (sometimes I have flash backs of the past) or I don't want to be touched I don't know what to do anymore because I'm thinking he is going to find sex somewhere else or leave me what do you all think I should do

rmb
rmb
I have a friend who has a similar condition. The pain is terrible for her. I feel for you. Have you told your husband how you feel. I would talk to him about it and find ways that maybe you can still be intimate without you suffering.
sexysub56
sexysub56
Here is a simplistic question. Have you spoken to a doctor about this?
forestfreek
forestfreek
Just to add, have you ever gone to therapy to deal with the sexual abuse you endured? It's very typical for people who have that kind of abuse in their past to experience sexual issues. It's a hugely traumatic thing and you deserve to have some help to overcome that. Good luck with everything.....
Sdcoct1989
Sdcoct1989
No I havent seen a therapist and we set down and talked but I understand he is a man with needs and its difficult sometimes
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
I'm so sorry that you're going through such a difficult and painful time.... I agree that therapy may help you a great deal if you're able to get into it
I would discuss this with your doctor as well
There is a good Sexual Abuse board on DS that may be able to help you as well..... Big hug ......xo

https://www.dailystrength.org/group/sexual-abuse
Sdcoct1989
Sdcoct1989
thank you
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