Sounds like they want to see actions, not just hear words. You will have to *show* them that they are important to you. Sit down and look at both of your schedules and find the times/days that you two both have free. Then commit to spending that time together. And, try to make those times together important, special and fun.

Could also be something about them having a problem with your career choice. Maybe you could also talk and try to find out why they are suddenly being this way about you going to college to further your career. Are they jealous or otherwise not approving of you studying to have this career (examples -you will make more money than them, you will be away more with your future career, etc)? If it feels like the right time, maybe also try to have this conversation with them and reassure them that things will only get better and better for you two, by you having this career in the future.

I am guessing they feel neglected, and not liking this recent school change, and so you need to reassure them. And SHOW them how important they are to you. Good luck and have fun on your date nights! :)

Thanks! I needed to hear that. I am really making an effort for us to have time to see each other. With our schedules being so different, it gets pretty difficult. I will definitely take your advice! :) Thank you!

With a modicum of kindness and compassion, I would shoot to hold the boundary you have already set and if he can't handle it, he is not the man for you. Accomplishments greater than cashing a welfare check call for intense drives. Somebody who is going to withdraw moral support at the earliest inconvenience is more codependent than partner.

So opineth The Arf. . .

Gentle support while you juggle that load and form your own opinions.

I think you have the right mind-set! "I am NOT going to drop out of school for a relationship". Good for you!

At this point in your life, your education IS MORE IMPORTANT than a relationship. Go read some of the posts in this and the 'break-ups and divorce". You will find story after story about women who make the man more important, only to end up stuck in a crappy relationship/marriage (with or without children) because they "can't afford to leave him". Meaning they don't have the education/skill set/work experience to be able to support themselves. These women didn't make the ability to support themselves a priority.

I also agree with arfie - if your guy can't understand the idea of sacrifice for the greater good, he is poor partner material.

Now, that being said, (and I don't know what your guy's idea of "together time" is), perhaps you can find some more time to spend with him.

"Hey, I have to do my laundry and study tonight, but do you want to hang out while I"m folding my laundry. I've got pizza."

Or

"Hey, I've got to run a bunch of errands, you wanna come with me?"

In many successful relationships, quality together time doesn't only mean making out of the sofa while "watching Netflix". It means being in the presence of one another while pursuing each individual pursues their own tasks/needs/etc. If "being together" means "I can't entertain myself, I need you to entertain me", bigger problems are likely on the horizon.

Stick to your guns, study hard, work hard - you will be a success. Best of luck,

If a person is pissy about your work and school schedule, not recognizing you are trying to balance everything with limited hours in a day, I say they are quite needy. That trait doesn’t dissapear when you start giving stuff up to please that person. In fact it will worsen. It will become a drain. I mean for crying out loud it’s not like you are married with kids and your partner needs help at home and you are MIA. You are doing what most people do to make a good life for themselves.

Damn right college is more important than spending time with your significant other. Don’t budge on this. You’ll regret it for the rest of your life.

Thanks for the support, guys! I have been trying not to let this get to me. I am trying as hard as I can to keep this relationship in tact. He seems to not understand that I am only one man and I cannot be in several places at once. School and work have to come first.

I am juggling a lot of responsibilities right now and I have to do what is best for me and my future. Thanks so much.

I think you are making the right decision as well...… School is for a few years and then you'll have just your work

You are carving out what you want to do and this is so important moving forward.....

Hopefully if he is the partner that you want to stay with he'll reassess his thoughts about this.... Maybe he just needs some reassurance ….. Big hug....xo