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Hello everyone, I need some help please,
I am a heterosexual female in a relationship with a heterosexual male who has a lesbian friend he calls his sister. She is the younger sister of his ex girlfriend.
They say they are brother and sister but she sends him nude photos of women she finds attractive, tells him in detail about her sex life, they talk in private on the phone, he sends her pretty much everything he sends me on the phone (daily life activities) he texts her not me when he goes out on the town (updates about his night) she has nude lesbian photos on the tv on slide show when she visits from out of town and he told me never to come between them.
The day I met her she told me how she got a girl to squirt. I told my boyfriend after meeting her that I didn't think that was the most appropriate conversation as it was intimate but I said it truly not being judgemental. I personally don't feel the need to share sexual details with others. He told her what I said and she has been nasty to me ever since and he was really mean and angry at me.
He says she's only interested in women but she will have a threesome (2 girls, one boy) to get sex with another girl.
If I say my feelings that I'm uncomfortable about it, as I have done before he gets wild at me. One time I got really drunk and texted him that they should just go ahead and f..k each other again (though I have no idea whether they have) as I was getting insecure and emotional about them. He said, how dare I accuse him of having sex with his sister.
He has asked me to marry him and I have kept my mouth shut about my feelings regarding the two of them, since the first time I said anything (if I say anything then he shuts me down and I don't get any updates about her, even that they have spoken on the phone)
I can't work out whether I'm wrong to feel threatened by their relationship. I always consider how the other person feels because I genuinely want to understand how and what is going on.
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Once again I've had a fever today. I'm not going to the hospital because that's a huge waste of time but I did schedule a dr appointment for Wednesday afternoon.
It sounds like they're BFF's ....
My roomie and dear friend is gay so I get it.... All of his best friends are female.... and when I talk with him it's like discussing things with a best girlfriend in a sense
It seems like she does like to get down and dirty however it wouldn't be because she's interested in your man other then friendship.... That's her personality
They do sound very young...... How old are they if you don't mind my asking?
She is early 30's.
Do you think I should pull them up on the down and dirty and voice my insecurities?
Or leave them be?
You are suppose to come first. He showed you where your place is.
I hope you won’t marry him.
Her sending him photos all the time is not OK. Even if she truly prefers women, she's still a much younger woman and he might be attracted to her. I think she enjoys messing with his head. She needs to respect your relationship. I probably would have said the same thing you texted when you were drunk.
Now, how on earth do I tell him? He is already so guarded about her.
She might think I'm too old! The stupid comment I made was that I guess I could think about another girl but the oral sex wasn't appealing. I'm not a lesbian and I don't think like one. It is disappointing to myself that I even thought of that angle but I've had the issue since we first got together when he told me not to come between them. That's when I became insecure and started thinking along those lines.
I ve been in relationships before when people slowly creep onto your values and make you question them, then you question yourself.
Then when you break up, you wonder how on earth you tolerated that BS?
You have to stand your ground and just say what you feel and what you want. If he breaks up with you, then you have your answer about how much you matter.
One year then broke up for a year and currently together 5 months.