It definitely sounds like he's interested in you, however, how do you know he's divorced? If he's still wearing a ring, I would take that as he's still very much a married man.

However, if he is truly divorced, I don't think it's any more of a risk to date him as opposed to someone else who has never been married. There's a risk with dating anyone. Just ask him about the previous marriage and why he got divorced. Sometimes people just grow apart, doesn't make him or her a bad person.

Wishing you the best!

I wouldn’t date me if I got divorced for at least a year or two. Definitely not till after I took the ring off. I’m pretty wrapped up in loving her and I would need some real alone time to be present for another woman. No matter how badly I may want to be with her. It wouldn’t be fair. To either. Time....ahh

I am not clear why you say he is divorced, or about to be divorced.... did he say that to you?

Sounds to me like a very much married guy, possibly looking to cheat on his (unsuspecting) wife.

I would stay away from this man.

I agree. I’d say it would be a huge red flag to me if he’s recently divorced, lost his wife, etc. because I’d be concerned he was rebounding, not really emotionally ready etc.

I’m married to someone who was previously married. That in and of itself is not a risk. So many people are divorced so if you eliminate them as potential mates would be really limiting the dating pool.

I would ask him what his story is. Learn about him and listen to how he frames his marriage, wife, ex wife etc. Many years ago when I was young and single I met a man I really liked who said he “was going through a divorce.” I learned he was still living with his wife. I ended it as soon as I found out but I learned from that experience to ask more questions and really listen to what’s not being said. It’s not fair to anyone to start a relationship before completely ending the one you are in.

I haven't asked him anything personal because I've only seen him 3 times. I don't want to come across as nosy. I have no idea! He has a ring on so he's either married, divorced or separated, or perhaps his wife died..... but he's given me signs that imply he's keen on me. He is a devoted dad, and doesn't come across as the sleazy, cheating sort.
His son recently got married - I sent him an email back saying "that's great news. You and your wife must be so proud"..... and he did not reply at all to this part of my email. No mention of a wife at all. Even the people at choir never mentioned/implied he has a wife.
At the moment I don't really know anything about him. But I agree it's best to protect myself.

A "divorced" man who hasn't taken off his ring hasn't gotten over the marriage and/or wife and isn't dating material...

I did some reading about people keeping their rings on: (if they're divorced or separated)
The ring won't come off
They keep it on to somehow feel safe/secure
They are sending out the message they are not wanting to date
The ring itself is simply nice to wear and look at
The divorce ended on positive terms

Nonetheless, there are lots of fish in the sea. I really need to protect my precious mind.

Thanks for the replies :-)

And all those "reasons" for wearing a ring post divorce all mean the same thing - I ain't ready to move on.

If he’s wearing a ring, he’s unavailable and that includes emotionally unavailable.

It sounds like you felt a strong and instant attraction, and you are detecting the same from him. I agree with the other posters that the wedding ring is a red flag. Ask yourself "why him"? Do you not meet enough new and interesting single men? What is it about him? Perhaps you can seek those qualities in someone available, and maybe someday down the line, the time will be right to get to know him better.

IS he divorced? I'd say you need to ask him.

Thank you for all your replies.
My problem is Me; I'm a sensitive soul and it doesn't happen often where I really like a guy, but when I do, my mind jumps ahead and over-thinks..... it basically gets to excited too quick.
Three years ago I got diagnosed with Autism, and until this diagnosis I've been a lost girl. It's only now that I'm getting to know myself.....finally! I'm learning about me.
As you can all imagine I've had several failed relationships because I was autistic and didn't know, kept feeling lost, got my heart broken, got manipulated, and even got physically abused.
I'm getting to know Me at last, thinking hard about what I will/will not tolerate, and learning to take charge and put my own needs first.
So this guy I've met, whether he's married or not, is a temporary distraction.
I think the universe could be testing me here.
I think that soon, my intuition and mind will give me an alarm bell and tell me, "YOU are more important to you that him", and then I'll forget about this. After all, I've been abused so a part of my mind now thinks, "This person could be a bully/predator".

I was so relieved, but angry and sad too, when I got my ASD diagnosis. I'm in my late 30's and most of my friends have moved on, got married and had kids. I've been completely stuck on my own (with parents who knew I was different from an early age but did nothing), and I now have the task of trying to repair the damage...... learning to forgive those who trampled on me, learning what a relationship actually is(!!!!!) and finally being myself. After all the problems I've had (and I haven't shared all of them), I doubt I'll go as far as children (because I've got too much to learn), but there's still time to meet my soulmate and share my life with him. I'm learning to be happy on my own at present and to love myself.

Hello,
Miss Chaplin
Don't get too ahead of yourself
Worrying about the son, ex wife etc....
I understand about feeling a connection
And that must be exciting for you. Take your time, maybe find out if he is divorced.
I have an Uncle that has never been married and wears a wedding ring.
I also have a friend that wears a ring,
When asked about it she stated
I and married to Jesus.
You mentioned learning to love yourself, I think its important to love yourself, before expecting someone to love you. The way you treat yourself will set the tone on how others will treat you.

Hope all goes well

MissChaplain, is it possible that this guy is a charmer and has his own best interests at heart? You write a lot of assumptions about his thinking that sounds like wishful thinking or magical thinking on your part. In other words, your brain is making up love stories about how he feels when the truth may be completely different! Although you knew he wore a ring and you emailed him first in hopes of something. I have this right don't I that you emailed him first? You haven't asked him about the ring. That twinkle in his eye might not be related to anything about you, after all. But it sounds like this guy is "taken" in one way or another. If you want the best for yourself, it is worth seeking instead of playing games with guys like this.