I get so frustrated in my marriage. My husband never does any housework - during the week or the weekend. I get hardly no help or support from him. Its always the same vicious cycle.
1)- he can never manage to cook a meal on his own - I have to help as he can't seem to manage things himself, when he does wash up he leaves this aside and never finishes the chores. He never irones or cleans up after himself I mean simple things like picking up after himself or putting things away. I always feel as I am a cleaner, I work part time and i come home before him and end up cleaning things he has left the day before or after, its just so unfair.
2) banter - the banter that people have the relationship is OK if its fair - but my husband directs his teasing at me, I am portrayed as the one who is lazy or doesn't know how to save money. I am teased and poked fun at the same who doesn't know things or I am called names which I find hurtful such as monkey in hindi which I don't feel is very romantic.
3) he never takes my values and feelings into consideration - how I like things to do be done eg planning ahead, shopping ahead eating at certain times as I have my own routine which I don't feel he respects this way. He never adjusts to my way of doing things and when I do book us something nice to do he often remarks about it being a waste such as money wise.
I literally feel I am smashing my head against a brick wall - when I say something I get referred to as ranting or raving my feelings are not taken into consideration its so bloody frustrating!
for example today he was up early- didn't clean up the kitchen or anything just sat in his dressing gown for over 1 hour just on the laptop. I feel like he just wasts time when he wants to and then he calls me lazy in a teasing way and I think aye??
Had emergency dr. Appointment he increased my med. When my anxiety goes up all my other health issues act up. Higher blood sugar , more pain, scrambled brain, etc. I want to control part of life, other illnesses usual are in control.
First therapy session is tomorrow! I’m getting somewhat nervous thinking about it. So do you all have any advice or personal experiences to share regarding your first session or therapists in general?