OTM. You don't even have to block his sorry ass.. IGNORE IT!!! I agree with everyone else and I love you to pieces, but there is clearly something you are getting out of this ridiculous ' relationship'. If I didn't know better, I would swear he's 14. I really hope you will search deep and try to figure out why you would have ANY REASON to have one more second of communication with him. Everyone has told you over and over again to dump him and you have always said ' yes, no more contact is what I have to do'. yet, for some reason that's beyond me, you can't let him go. Let him go be with his facebook offers. I am not trying to be mean, I'm honestly just baffled beyond belief as to what you are doing. Hugs xoxo

I so agree. And you know I say things from a place of friendship. I don't want you to think I'm being hard on you, but really, what are you doing??? I mean, if you want a new phone, that's one thing, but really, to avoid him you need a new phone? Just take control of the situation and simply not answer his call.

I wonder if you're a bit addicted to the drama, the attention he gives you even though it's not good attention. I'm not saying that to make you feel bad. That's just kind of what it looks like, that you'd take all this silliness and game playing rather than nothing at all.

You know how when you're super close to a mirror, you can no longer make out the details of your face, but if you step back, everything is clear? You're standing too close to the proverbial mirror and not seeing yourself and your actions clearly. And those of us here who know you a bit, we have some distance and so can see everything. Step back a second. Just stop, step back, be in the moment and examine what you're doing.

It's just hard to understand calling foul about the guy when you seem to still kind of want to engage him and connect with him. Do you know what I mean? I know if one of your friends was going through this, you'd say to her, run and don't look back. Why aren't you being that friend to yourself?

On the other hand, if you do really want to try to still date him and hang out with him, then just own that, go in accepting who he is and be prepared for what that all means to your life.

Hi friends, yes you are all correct, the only person I have to blame is me. I kept entertaining it. I kept playing with fire. All do to my own low self esteem, loneliness etc.... (I am going to see my therapist today about all of this). I have to look at me. Maybe it is an addiction? The drama? I will think about that too.

I got the phone because I really wanted it......Not just to block him. I guess I am spoiled and I missed my iPhone.
Dumb I know.

Thank you everyone for all your kind and sometimes tough words.

<3 OTM

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He's very passive/aggressive and he's emotionally abusive and controlling sweetie.. . There is always a honeymoon period for aggressors and after they lash out... This is feeding something in you OTM and I'm not saying that to beat you up... I ended up with a real prick at a low point in my life for a year or so .. It was what I grew up with ... I was used to it and I didn't feel very good about me.. That was my reasons... I wouldn't do it again
If you're struggling with this I would think about getting another therapist sweetie if you don't like the one you're now with... You are a valuable human being who deserves someone who will treat you well... big hug....x

Hi Suncloud! I am seeing my regular therapist today at 5pm. I will see how I feel after that. Thanks!! :)

Aw OTM, you should get yourself whatever phone you want and that doesn't make you spoiled. Not dumb at all. I think everyone is just concerned about you, and hates such a vibrant, smart woman hurting.

Look up Narcissistic Personality Disorder. You may recognize him in the description.

Hi ezzy, Yes I looked that up the other day and OMG yes it was him totally.

Saw my therapist today and it went well. I should probably go back at least a few more times.

This isn't about him.. You know what kind of person he is.
What are you doing? You don't need to see a therapist to answer that question. He is now seeking you out.. Good or bad attention is still attention.
Have NC with this creep... Go to therapy, don't date until you are healthy enough to make good decisions.. Good Luck

If he didn't have a kid, I'd say do whatever you want. But he's got a kid and in a few short weeks she's calling you mommy....that's SO not right on so many different levels. He needs to get his head out of his butt and be a father, and the only way he's going to learn how to do that, is on his own.