I'm with RMB on this one

From what I am gathering based on his text messages he wants to go out 2 nights a week for his own "ME" time and he has his son the rest of the time, so when he sees me it will also be with his son and I can sleep over too. LOL!! Does this man think I am an idiot? Why would I settle for that????

ok.. this is the first time I've gotten on this board since the change over.. Please please tell me we are not talking about ' 80's guy' right now. Maybe I need to go back and look at older posts.. I really hope we are not talking again about ' 80's guy'.

okay.. OTM, I apologize for being so abrupt. I should've gone back and checked for another post. I found it so I have more understanding. You know I'm very sorry about you losing your Cassandra and I know how much you loved her. You also know that I have strong feelings about this guy and I've been vocal about it. It's been out of my concern for your wellbeing and because I adore you and I truly do care. I don't need to tell you that I think this guy is every which way of wrong for you there is and he certainly sounds like a narcissist. If that's the case, I'm sure there are enough people here who have been with one to tell you what you're headed for if you stay in this relationship. You deserve so much better than this R. I can't find anything good about his behavior other than a few words that honestly seem hollow to me. I think he wants a new ' mommy' for his child and you're his choice. His texts are rude and all over the place. Listen to your last reply on this post.. WHY WOULD YOU SETTLE FOR THAT? Keep asking yourself that same question. You're a beautiful, kind, funny, loving woman. Don't settle for someone who won't respect you or appreciate you for the wonderful woman you are. big hugs and love xoxo

I went to dinner tonight with my friend Chrissy and I said "I am out to dinner now so I will have to talk to you later" He texted back saying "You are obviously seeing someone, so don't bother, I got a couple of offers on Face Book so I am going to say yes to them. and you can keep me blocked on FB I don't care"

Yes LMT I am very ashamed to admit it is the same 80's dude.

Not sure why he is being so mean to me.

OTM...I like you too. This my dear is beyond ridiculous. Why even begin to care why he is now being mean? I only say this as a friend would. You want to find a good man, yes? Don't continue to waste you time or energy with this dude. Move on...please. You deserve way better.

Hi iTwist, Thank you for your kindness. I guess he is mad at me now, no response since last text....LOL!! I don't care!!!

I agree with the advice that was given to you. He seems a bit childish and I don't see anything good coming from this. Some people just love unnecessary drama and getting reactions from others by being negative.

You are a beautiful woman OTM64 and I'm definitely sure there's better out there. Don't waste any more time on this man.

I cannot block him on the crappy phone I have right now (I dropped my iPhone in water and ruined it) so I am going today to get another good phone (because I decided I deserve it!) and I am going to block him so that I don't have to hear from him ever again. Thank you all very much for helping me.

I am not sure why you are posting about this. Posters have given you sensible advice, repeatedly, now and before you left the site. I figured you left because everyone was telling you to dump him, when you wanted to dive in. You wouldn't tell us that the date who didn't wear condoms was the 80's dude until afterwards, not to mention the other posts where you asked questions anonymously, yet they were about the 80's dude. When it came out that it was him you were asking about, everyone said to dump him. What did you do, you dumped us, and dove in with him.

My advice to you would be to find a therapist you can talk with freely, and commit to weekly visits for at least 1-3 years to help you figure out why you would do this – put yourself in harm's way. Everyone here has given you advice, pointed out the fluttering red flags, circled the problems, underlined the nonsense, highlighted the dangers, yet you seem to ignore all of it.

I wish you well.

I left the site on the advice of my therapist.

You need to ignore, ignore and ignore. Otherwise your just going in circles. If you don't have children together there is no reason to communicate with each other at this point. Firing back insults will not help you move on...it just fuels the fire....aren't you tired of it all?

Hi missed! Yes you are right, no more contact is what I have to do. Heading to AT&T now to get my new iPhone! Yay!