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feeling weak

lucillegem
lucillegem

I have been having anxiety attacks since friday


and my boyfriend and I have been constantly fighting


so today, we decided to give each other space


And I am feeling so weak right now, DESPITE knowing I was the one who requested space


he said to me yesterday "it seems your always the center of attention, where am I"


I feel so guilty having anxiety, I feel whenever i try to reach out my anxiety hightens. I wish it would just all go away


why does it matter, what he thinks or what other thinks? I feel so physically sick and alone


In my head I am interpreting being strong as being isolated, which in this moment :( i think is making my anxiety worse


i dont want to look weak, yet im only human... despite my boyfriend trying to build me up, I know i cant always rely on him. Shit happens, I know i am not the center, but I am feeling weak and frightened of myself. I dont know how to get rid of what im feeling. NOTHING is making me happy, and every second I feel im on the verge of breaking down, again an again until I dig a hole and crawl into it. Is this a cry for help or just another desperation? i am so confused. I cant even focus on my day... GUILT is overloading me.

AnxietyFreak40
AnxietyFreak40
Unfortunately I have learned to keep a lot of the anxiety from family. They want to understand but unless you don't suffer from it yourself they just don't get. Plus, it wears them out worrying out us just as much as it does us. Not really any sense in everyone worrying..so in this case I feel being strong is learning to tough it out on your own and try to maintain a normal life. That is when I pound out a journal or find someone here to chat with. Big Hugs to you!
gregsbaby
gregsbaby
So sorry you're feeling this way. Anxiety does suck big time but don't beat yourself about having it and you're NOT weak because you have it. Are you seeing a counselor? If you are are you on meds? If no to either of those maybe you should try to seek help. There's nothing to be ashamed of in seeking therapy/meds; I take them and I affectionately call them my happy pills. I never wanted to be on them, however I was tired of feeling like poo. I still have some blah days, but for the most part I'm ok. Just some suggestions :)
Masao
Masao
I hope you don't keep feeling ashamed for feeling uncomfortably anxious. There is no shame in it. There is a message in it. Please practice conscious breathing - circular and deep, until you feel connected to yourself again and gain insight into the causes of your anxiety - and it doesn't have to be immediate - it could be something unresolved from the past - or something you're not wanting to think about but need to love and courage to face - with lots of support from family and friends. Reach out for help from support groups, friends, family - and never shame yourself - thats counter productive. Just my two cents :)
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Big hug for you Lucille..... There is a really good and active Anxiety board on here as well as a good Depression board ... These may be helpful for you

It sounds to me like your boyfriend is frustrated probably because he doesn't know what to do or how to help you

Have you seen a doctor sweetie or have you seen a therapist?... There is good help for both anxiety and depression..... Big hug.....xo
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