Healthy Relationships Support Group
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My husband and I have been married for a year, and over that time he has become so reliant on me to be a sounding board for all of his problems (real or otherwise) that I don't feel like I'm in a marriage. I think that now that he isn't on his own he feels like he can unload all his worries on me, but then he turns what would otherwise not be a big deal into a monumental problem. Every ache and pain is interpreted as a life altering injury, and it seems like he has lost his ability to manage difficult feelings. When I try to talk to him about this he just gets upset and I end up backtracking or feeling like I have to apologize. Then he gets upset because I don't have much of a sex drive. How do you tell your husband that you don't feel sexy when you spend all day feeling more like his mom than his wife! It has only been a year and he seems to have completely forgotten that I am a human with her own problems and needs.
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Now that I am not talking to my whatever best friend, I realized that her life is full of drama. I had grown tired of hearing her stories about her boyfriend many months ago. She basically had been monopolizing conversations for that long too. She pretty much stopped asking me questions about me. I passed her in front of her classroom the other day and didn't even look at her. I am...
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Just had an interesting conversation with ChatGPT! It was kind of like talking kindly to myself. You should get the App. It's free.
Reconnect. Plan a night out where you are both relaxed and it's easy to talk and listen to each other. I just think it takes so much work to keep a marriage upright. It's constant. It feels impossible sometimes when you're not both on the same page, which happens a lot throughout the relationship.
Does he suffer from anxiety?
I hope you two can rebuild your friendship again.
Magbe you can be the wiser one and take him out on a date and really get him to talk about your reltionship and listen.. Maybe don't respond, but focus on listening to see what the hell is going on in his head.
Hugs