Why does seeing Dr. in front of someone's name, intimidate you? Do you feel like you're not "good enough"? He is just a dentist, afterall.

Sending you hugs...

Does he have to know how much you make? That's kind of poor taste to ask....don't you think?
I've gone out with a few doctors...very egocentric...that's a turnoff for me...good luck with it all though!

I'm not a guy, but men are all different. Some may not care about what you make while others may. I personally think it wouldn't be a big deal for men since traditionally men have been the breadwinners and providers, but as I said all men are different. The only way to know for sure is to give it a shot with this guy.

Unfortunately, I do feel a little like I might no be good enough. I know that's not necessarily true, but it creeps in there every now and then.

I don't feel like I HAVE to tell him how much I make and he certainly has not asked, but I figure if it all goes anywhere, he'll notice eventually that I can't afford a lot and I don't want to be seen as a burden. He's a really down to earth, funny guy and doesn't seem like the type that would care, but I have a tendency to brace myself for the worst. I do a good job of taking care of myself and I don't expect anyone to take of me, but I've dated guys that seem to believe that that's their responsibility and then get irritated by it, even though it was never what I needed anyways.

in general, I don't think this is as important to men as it is to women. Some men, care sure, some women, don't care. I'd probably be a little intimated with the Dr. title (and I have a higher level of education in engineering, I've worked around several people with a PH.D/ Dr title-not in medicine).

But if he was nice, laid back, didn't have a big ego (some highly educated people do, are intellectual snobs), I'd be ok with that!

If he's the big ego/ snobbish type, you'll find out pretty quickly!

You should not have to feel uncomfortable that you can not afford expensive hobbies. No matter how much money we make, it is never enough anyway.
I m sure the dentist is not stupid and realizes that he makes more.

I think for men, they feel intimidated by a successful woman. There is still the stereotype of the 1%er Jerk who marries a golddigging Stripper; who sees him as a meal ticket.

I pursued the Academic route and have found that it counts for jack when trying to find work. Also, I know a relative who's really struggling for money and works herself to the bone. (she's 62 and needs to take it easy, but she has our Family's workaholic disease) Those who left School at 16 got Vocational Training and ended up being the well-to-do Golfers. (My Uncle and Cousin are like that)

In the end, earning power isn't related to academic ability.

I think its more of an issue for men if the women make more. Ok, of course its nice to be with someone who is of an equal standing, However, don't think that we are so evolved as to be completely removed from the notion of the man being the bread winner. I am unable to work right now and it honestly hasn't scared any guys away. I've met some guys who want that role of being the main breadwinner because that is part of their identity as a man. (Don't anyone go all feministic on me here, its true!)

As a guy, it would only matter to me that you're financially solvent, are taking care of yourself.

And it wouldn't bother me in the least if a woman I'm with makes more money than me (they who have taken over the corporate world do make more money than me, and I hate the corporate world), except I don't want to be a burden to HER. I'm aware of my and my career's "limitations". Maybe she can educate me in how to make more money! I'll make up for it in other ways, like physical loving

For men, how important is a woman's salary to you? For me, it doesnt. It sounds like a lie, but its not. As long as I know she loves me and is not using me, her money, high or low is meaningless to me. We will make it just fine as long as we really love each other.

I have been dirty poor more than once and also been well off pretty damn good more than once. The only thing that really seem to hold value to me and my life was the ones I love that loved me. If she loves me, we will make it. If she doesnt, we wont. Being rich isnt about the money you have in the bank, but the love you have in the heart. Just how I live.

For me I have grown up lower middle class. I have gotten to a comfortable earning place in my life and now that I am single I am way more concerned with the kind of person a woman is than how much money she makes.

Everyone feel free to keep posting their thoughts and experiences on this topic, but just wanted to say thank you for all that's been said so far. It's been really helpful and informative!

I am of the opinion that when people concern themselves with the financial status of their potential partners, it is usually NOT about the money or the worry of having to support their partner. It is actually about SOCIAL STATUS. And the reason it is usually women who concern themselves with the financial status is because a man's social status in our society is much more tied to his financial status than a woman's. Society labels men past a certain age(25 or 30) who do not make good money as losers. Sure being rich gives a woman a higher social status, but a woman is not labeled as a loser for not making good money.

Anyways, in most cultures, women are pretty open about the fact that they want a guy who makes good money and that if a guy doesn't, they consider him below their standards. I find it funny how women in western society try to rationalize it in other way(e.g. "I want a man who is driven and ambitious") instead of just admitting that they see a guy who doesn't make good money as a loser. Perhaps because if they admit that they value something superficial, they would no longer be in a position to bash men for seeking pretty women or younger women.

Point being, he probably won't care about your financial status, because as a woman, society doesn't judge you based on how much money you make.

Hero,

Isn't it just as superficial to want a young pretty woman as it is superficial to want a high earning man?

Everyone wants the best possible deal. It's why relationships don't work out. We are all running around thinking "What am I getting out of this" rarely thinking "What do I have to offer"