@yorman, they call that Pascal's wager.

OTM, your right on....some people say its irrational thinking. I'm certainly not trying to convert anyone, but as everybody else, offer my thoughts on the subject.

Isn't more important than what we believe (which is largely semantics, all religions are sayong a lot of the same things, rivers going to the same ocean, capillaries going to the same heart) that we treat each other with kindness???

Melissa2487,

I'm glad you found a very Christian man to date. In my experience loving Christ has a positive impact on both a person's character and their relationships.

I'm glad his Christian buddies are not showing you any disrespect or contempt.

In my humble opinion, the advice that his friends are giving him is probably to try and protect him (and perhaps you) from pain in the future if the relationship grows or changes.

For example, if the two of you get married and have children will it matter to you if the kids are raised to call Christ God?

What happens on Christmas morning if you are both lead by your respective faiths? How about on the morning of Jewish holidays and holy days? What happens if he teaches the kids that Sunday is the Lord's Day. Are you resentful on the Sabbath?

If your boyfriend reads the Bible and sees it as an unapologetic book of truth that could some day be a game changer. At some point he will probably want the same for you. Can you handle him presenting his faith in a way that feels...proselytizing?

I think his buddies are saying to him...LOOK! There is nothing wrong with this perfect girl, but as faith changes you two might grow in different directions. His friends may have even lived this scenario in their own lives. They may want to give him the benefit of their experience.

Just something to consider in my opinion, thanks for listening.

Best Wishes and hugs

Don't take it personal. It's not about you and your beliefs, but about them and their beliefs. As long as you and your boyfriend are okay with it that's all that matters.

I know that's probably easier said than done, but it's your best option and it's going to be far easier and much less stressful and frustrating than trying to change their beliefs (which you're probably not going to be able to do anyway).

Well to be fair, yes as faith changes so can the relationship, but that can be said for any changes. People change, their desires change, their goals change, their minds change. These are all challenges most couples face. I'm not saying having differing religions is a cake walk, but it's just something people either work out or they don't, like any other challenge in a relationship. It's really nobody's business, bottom line. I mean if she was a meth head, yes friends should express their concerns. While I do believe the intentions of the boyfriend's friends are good, I also think they are missing the boat on what it means to actually love someone for who they are down to their core. If you believe in god, you believe in love. Anything else is just a personal agenda.

JustASimple.... So well said... "it's about them and their beliefs" and how arrogant is that!!

Ultimately God is love

If the 2 of you can make peace with your differences then everybody else will have to suck it up.

Religious and cultural differences can cause rifts and issues over the years because of upbringing and expectations you might have of each other. If you keep the communication open and discuss some of the things that will cause big conflict such as, if you were to get married, how important is it for either to get married in their church/temple? If you were to have children, how important is raising them in your faith?

Those can be doozies but also can be compromised. I have a few friends who married Jewish men. 2 of the men converted bur one did not.

Fir the one who did not they have offered both religions. The children were both baptized and made communion yet also had the Jewish circumcision (sorry I forget the name of the ceremony) and bamitzfa.

One of the ones whos husband converted did so after they had kids. They got married in church bya priest and Rabbi. It was beautiful.

Has your family expressed concerns? I think at the endof the day it's up to the 2 of you to work through any bumps nor his friends and family.

Pardon any typos. It's hard to proof read from my phone

This is exactly I never joined a religion.
I am so sorry you have to deal with this.
Faith is a deeply personal Matter and I am so sick of people judging each other.
I went to a catholic college and one of my fellow students got in my face irate and waving her hands - how dare I not believe in God.
Sad.

I've been Jewish AND Christian... It sucks. Before I converted, I dated a Catholic guy, and literally NO ONE I knew said, "We approve of this." Everyone was like, "You need a good Jewish boy," and then tried to think of one to fix me up with and couldn't. It was depressing. Like, if you don't know of anyone better for me, why are you telling me to not be with this person?
In orthodox branches of both faiths, mixed religion couples are forbidden. This is so that the sacred traditions will be carried on to the next generation without any problems. It's also easier for some to raise children with unification on the religion front. But, that's not always the case.
I'd talk to your boyfriend about how these comments make you feel. Tell him why your faith is important to you and ask why his is important to him. Don't be afraid of the topic of conversion; just be prepared to defend whatever you choose, not to others, but to yourself. In the end, if it's not that big a deal to either of you, that's what matters most. You'll just need to know where he stands on the issue.
If I were you, I would want to know what my boyfriend is replying to these remarks, if anything. If he's not saying anything, I'd want to know why he's not defending myself and the relationship. That might also be a discussion you want to have.

I will add this bit of warning: The Catholic guy I was dating told me he couldn't marry a girl unless she was Catholic. I went through the conversion process only to have him inform me three weeks prior to the final ceremony that he never had any intentions of marrying me nor did he ever have any feelings for me. I still converted anyway for other personal reasons, but my warning is this: IF someone in your relationship does decide to convert, be sure of the relationship first!!!

Join Jews for Jesus! Then both bases are covered.

YES!!! JEWS FOR JESUS IS AWESOME!!! My whole family got into that and it's a great way to blend the faiths and mend bridges.

Organized religion all together gives me a sour taste in my mouth.
I've had bad experiences with it. I was raised in the south where bigotry and hatred runs rampant. I grew up with a father who thought differently than the majority did in church but never voiced his opinion for what he thought was right because he feared being ostracized by his church. My mother was a good hearted woman who hated to hear hateful things come out of other people's mouths but her opinions didn't really bother anyone because she was a woman and her opinion doesn't really mean anything in the eyes of many around here.

To me the problem isn't organized religion specifically, but people's warped interpretation of a religion's tenants. I think more egregious, in my mind, is the misuse of power in organized religion. People want to belong to something, a community. That's what organized religion offers. That is not a bad thing. The problem, in my mind, is that man unfortunately gets so seduced by power and control others and that's where I think everything goes off the rails.

But then again, what do I know. I'm about up to here with Religion and Politics right now, both so alarmingly similar in how they can draw so many blow hards, fear mongers and a whole lot of self righteous drivel.