Big hug Mandy...... So it reads like you've been living a pretty miserable existence for 6 years then

You are going to have to decide if you want to continue to live like this or not.....

I have been in a rotten marriage and I found peace of mind when I left pretty much right away

If it's partly financial that you stay you can always look for a roommate if you would want to leave however it doesn't seem like he's going to change from what you've written.... So it's now up to you to decide what you want for your future....

I know it's hard and it sounds like it's heartbreaking..... Another hug.....xo

Mandy, was there ever a time that this guy was hot and heavy to have sex with you? Think back to when you were dating, how was it like back then?

I have several thoughts, one is not every human wants sex. Look into what asexual is. Sometimes people marry the opposite sex/gender but they prefer their same sex/gender. So your spouse may be gay.

Some people have health issues or take medications that remove their libido. How old is this guy?

You are miserable. So that says it all. Accept you are miserable with a sexless marriage and sit down and tell him this. Ask him if he prefers men or actually. has no desire for any kind of sex. He is not willing to change and it may be the the simply can't change. People desire who they desire or do not desire at all.

You have many choices but you can't change him to be interested in sex it sounds like. So if you accept that aspect of your marriage, what do you want to do now?

What do you want to do?

I will just note that not everyone stops having sex with their partner for crappy reasons. He may have a medical problem or medication may be causing some of this. He may not even be aware of it himself. Lot of men don’t like to
discuss that kind of thing, that’s the issue.

thanks for the replies. but no he really wasnt hot and heavy to have sex when we first dated but we did at least have sex.

I think you have to have an honest and kind discussion with him and ask many questions. Prepare in advance to know what you need to ask. Something is off, and he has never shown much interest in sex. You can stay or you can go but if you want to know what he is thinking, then you have to ask and then sit and listen. Like rmb said, there are medical reasons as well as sexual orientation or lack of desire, asexual as far as I can think of. You need to know why and what you are dealing with and then decide with him what to do. Some couples have outside sexual relationships, others accept and make do, others divorce.

Oh, my apologies, you said you are not married so forget the divorce and just say end the relationship.

I'm sorry that you are miserable in your relationship. Good relationships have an open door for both people to be able to communicate how they are feeling. Have you thought about talking with a counselor? This would benefit you both as you learn how to communicate clearly. Hugs to you!