Gambling Addiction & Recovery Support Group

Compulsive gambling is an urge or addiction to gamble despite harmful negative consequences or a desire to stop. A preferred term among many professionals is problem gambling, as few people described by the term experience true compulsions in the clinical sense of the word. Problem gambling often is defined by whether harm is experienced by the gambler or others rather...

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deleted_user 10/30/2009

i do not want to offend or post in the wrong forum.. but i dont see and support group on this list for spouses.. does anyone here know what the spouse should do.. or where to get support to deal with be married to gambler?? i am trying so hard to be understanding.. he has told me he is not doing it anymore.. but he also has chnaged the password to our acct ...he said he wants to straighten out the problem .. and needs time then i can see it again...it makes me so insucure to not be able to see for myself how much money we have ...and just trust that its going to be ok ...i handed him thre bills at the months beginning and i am trying to trust he will pay them ..but discussing money at all seems to make him very angry ...i see him playing poker all the time .. and i sometimes ask to be sure its fake money he is playing with .. and he seems to be annoyed by this question ...so i mostly just have to pray he isnt still gambling...and try to assure myself it will be ok ...next month our income will fall almost 600$ a month ..he goes on unemployment...even at this pay we end up in a very bad situation at the end of each pay period...he always pulls it out and we mangange but if he uses an money at all after this months end.. we will be in very serious trouble.. he assures me he is a support group and he has quit .. i think i need some support to deal with too.. any ideas?thanks

deleted_user 11/12/2009

i wish i could take over the finances.. but the only chking acct is in his name.. and the password is changed. and since my name isnt on it ..i have no power over it at the bank..til i get a job and put money in my own acct im out of the $ thing..and at this point the casinos have the acct info saved he doesn't need the card or anything else.. they already have it.. just one click and he is there.. yesterday he stepped away from the computer and didn't realize i guess he had left up one of his pay places..i didn't say anything i just clicked print...i saw that he did stop using this certain place for a few weeks..Oct 21 was the last deposit.. doesn't mean he didn't use anothe rone.. but he had gambled Nov 9, 10 and 11...he was actually processing a deposit after we had spent 4 hours at crisis ministries getting help to pay the power bill and they gave us a bunch of food too..i was in awe.. i gave him the paper and didn't say anything at all.. he said what do you think you see?..i was like i know !!! what i see.. over 50$ and 20$ of that day .. what in the world goes on here??i have to admit to get back at him i had two beers.. he hates it if i have more than one... and i just couldn't talk about it ...today he told our family counselor he needed help.. which is great .. but he actually got sick after and said he doesn't ever want to have a one on one meeting with this guy again.. i told him his addiction was working on him ...he went to bed..i have no idea if there is any money in that acct left .. but i think and hope the card they give you for unemployment doesn't process gambling!! and thank god you cant use a food stamp card.. we are on those too..ok im done ranting..im so glad you all are here

deleted_user 11/16/2009

gingye
I too am dealing with this , Its really hard to talk to family or friends about this issue , they just dont get it , but I dont either , I think he has been doing this way before we got married , I am so tired of being lies and the stories that he isnt doing it but its pretty bad !! only thing i can say after 13 years dont beleive anything he says
sorry

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