Foster Care Support Group

Foster care is a system by which a certified, stand-in parent(s) cares for minor children or young peoples who have been removed from their birth parents or other custodial adults by state authority. Responsibility for the young person is assumed by the relevant governmental authority and a placement with another family found.

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  • Jd524

    Normal behaviors?

    Hello all. Im new here and looking for some advice/support/experiences. I received my nephew through foster care in the middle of July. My sister suffers from neurological problems and mental illness and has had a downward spiral, some of the damage is permanent. After speaking with cps, foster care, and lawyers there is no intention of my sister getting her son back. There are several things...
  • NCFosterParent

    At Wits End

    Good morning.  My wife and I are newly licensed foster parents.  We got our first palcement 5 weeks ago.  An almost 3 year old that was described as high energy, excetpional behavior, no medications, etc.  Keep in mind, including his biological family, we are his 5th placement in 10 months. He was short term with the goal of reunification by January/February. The first week was great, as...
  • Jacks-ar

    How do i prevent this!

    Had a surprise bday party for "a" and mom showed up in unauthorised. Gave them hugs and nearly lied every word she spoke to them! She even knew she wasn't supposed to be there!How i do prevent this from happening again?  What if next time she tries to take them? What if she tries to find my house? (We live in a small town and she only lives about 7 blocks away from us.)
  • JustTired2

    Broken System

    The system is so broken! People talk out of two-sides of their mouth. They talk about trauma and yet they are the ones that cause it. They tell you that siblings need to be together but what they really mean is you keep this child with their sibling but we will move her and the bond that that they have doesn't matter because one sister has been adopted already. They act like you have no say so...
  • scarpetta80

    New to Foster Parenting...

    Hi Everyone,My husband and I took in three foster siblings a couple months ago. We knew it would be a challenge taking in that many, but we also knew how hard it is to keep siblings together. My husband was a foster kid his whole childhood, and having been separated from his sisters, it made taking in these three especially meaningful. But being first-time parents, especially with foster...
  • NewtoFC

    Has anyone every experienced this?

    New to the group. HOpe someone can help us. Me and my partner received our foster liscense early this year. It wasnt something we set out to do but my nieces and nephews needed help. Fast forward to this May we received a call for a child to foster. After some deliveration we said yes. 14.5 years old this boy had been smoking since 8 yo and smoking weed since 9yo. Hang with the wrong crowd etc...
  • Snowbadger79

    Does a full sibling make a difference in adoption?

    We currently foster parents. We have a 20 month old girl ("L") we have had since she was 15 months. She is coming up on six months with us and her case worker is starting to discuss permancy plans. A month after we got her, her mother ("M") gave birth to a daughter (we'll call "S" for sister) that she had already made plans to place for adoption with a family (darn we were a little late on that...
  • Andrea11

    Looking to give a support system

    I am in the Farmers Branch area.  Anyone here foster parents, and would like respite, to share advice, and just connect?  Thanks!
  • theleastofthese

    Changing Roles

    I am a foster parent of 2 brothers "T" age 7 and "M" age 2.  I also have an adopted daughter age 5.The boys have been with us for 12 months.  Bio dad died in July. Bio mom moved out of state and has had no contact with anyone since May ... until this week when she texted and said she wanted to restart phone calls.We were thinking of adopting when / if we get to TPR, but we are probably too old...
  • Jacks-ar

    Birth mother's gift

    Mom gave "a" a stuffed frog. No problem there, however she dowsed it with perfume. So much that i can smell it through out my whole house. It almost seems like her mom moved in its such an obvious smell. And its make me not feel well.Am I allowed to wash it without asking the child? Should she be allowed to have such a presence in my house?
  • Standstrong2015

    Our sweet girl

    Hi my wife and I have been fostering since October of last year. We did because a family member was having her children taken away. With that said we have had 4 foster babies in our care with in the last year. We are down to two babies right now and one is a beautiful baby girl. Mom is in prison and dad is homeless at the moment with two other kids. With that said. My wife is in contact with the...
  • apie0402

    Bio mom asks to meet up a lot

    We've had our FD for 10 months. (Our first placement  of a 3 y/o girl.)Bio mom regularly asks for us to meet up on the weekends. We work M-F and typically have things planned on the weekends and when we don't we like to veg at home. We have met up when visits get cancelled out of her control and for special things like her birthday. I want to be sensitive to her situation, but i don't want to...
  • kpierson09

    foster child was moved but we can still adopt

    okay so we have had our foster child for 2 years with the mother not working her case plan at all. no family came forward till they talked about removing the mothers rights. The mothers right are not removed and they moved our foster daughter with the great aunt that came forward even though we are filling for adoption. The jusge did not want to move her till the adoption agency chose who would...
  • teenfostermompnw

    Foster Parenting Teens

    My wife and I are new foster parents, and our kid is great. We're having difficulties with our caseworker, however, who seems to have no interest in getting to know our kid (she's been in the system for 10 years, and is now 16, and he's known her for about 3 weeks). He doesn't respond to her calls or requests, and seems to have an extremely paternalistic view of managing cases. Has anyone else...
  • ServingUpHope

    Teenager resistance

    My husband and I are in the middle of foster care training. We have an almost 13 yr old son (from my first marriage) and a 2 year old son. my oldest is resistent to fostering but can't seem to provide a reason. I don't know what to do...