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FIRST i wanna say THANK YOU to all of you and everyone that has been hoping and praying for us!!! it means SO MUCH to me, you have no idea.....
we see the pain psychologist monday (the 5th, which is also my bday), in which i already called him and told about his suicide threats. and i think his therapist will be talkin to our pain psychologist, about it too.
he still argues with me every evening about the stupidest shit and he still gets so upset he starts giving me the "warnings" again (that he's climbing that latter to suicide threats again). his therapist gave him this "strategy" to use when he gets that "feeling" again, that, he has to warn me.
every evening it escalates. and then he backs down and starts telling me that he wants us to work. that he will do anything to make us work. his moods are like a f%ckin roller coaster!!
i can't wait to see the couples counselor on the 19th. this shit is driving me so fuckin crazy.... how the hell do you handle suicide threats all the time???? i wanna pull my hair out, i told him last night. also that he's driving me absolutely crazy! i told him all of it yesterday... i told him to get a grip!
i understand he's on unemployment, can't get work, is about to start college again, is in pain, is on a new med, has PTSD, yada yada.....
--BUT-- i've also been thru hell with this fuckin cymbalta tearin my GI tract up!! and now getting off the stuff (weaning off) is giving me the craziest withdrawal symptoms!!!! and yes, i'm IN PAIN TOO!! good God....
he said he gets it and will try to get along with me for now.... yeah right! wait till his mood switches again. then he chews my head off for no freakin reason!!! his doc put him on valium to try and sedate him more..... we'll see. he's napping for now....
the drama is just nuts... it's not helping my symptoms. thanks for praying for me and please keep it up! i need you all more than ever right now....
Peace and God bless....
we see the pain psychologist monday (the 5th, which is also my bday), in which i already called him and told about his suicide threats. and i think his therapist will be talkin to our pain psychologist, about it too.
he still argues with me every evening about the stupidest shit and he still gets so upset he starts giving me the "warnings" again (that he's climbing that latter to suicide threats again). his therapist gave him this "strategy" to use when he gets that "feeling" again, that, he has to warn me.
every evening it escalates. and then he backs down and starts telling me that he wants us to work. that he will do anything to make us work. his moods are like a f%ckin roller coaster!!
i can't wait to see the couples counselor on the 19th. this shit is driving me so fuckin crazy.... how the hell do you handle suicide threats all the time???? i wanna pull my hair out, i told him last night. also that he's driving me absolutely crazy! i told him all of it yesterday... i told him to get a grip!
i understand he's on unemployment, can't get work, is about to start college again, is in pain, is on a new med, has PTSD, yada yada.....
--BUT-- i've also been thru hell with this fuckin cymbalta tearin my GI tract up!! and now getting off the stuff (weaning off) is giving me the craziest withdrawal symptoms!!!! and yes, i'm IN PAIN TOO!! good God....
he said he gets it and will try to get along with me for now.... yeah right! wait till his mood switches again. then he chews my head off for no freakin reason!!! his doc put him on valium to try and sedate him more..... we'll see. he's napping for now....
the drama is just nuts... it's not helping my symptoms. thanks for praying for me and please keep it up! i need you all more than ever right now....
Peace and God bless....
My best wishes and *hugs*
Stress will really make your pain shoot to the ceiling.. and anxiety too..
Will keep you in my prayers hun.. hope things get better for you.. big hugs... :)
HUgs Nancy
HUGS from down south :)
Take care hun!
Adding my prayers and well wishes to the list....
I think Callistal's advice about the 5 minute cool-down period for him (but really its for you) is an awesome idea... go in with that... it seems like it could be your only defence- a "time -out " in a situation liike this.
Personally.. though unhelpful.. I'd retort with a well.. my pain is climbing on the ladder too..... not to make light of his threats but I don't know the whole story but I am sure YOU need someone looking out for you right now too. All of us will try from here I'm sure.
Coralie XxX
cymbolta just killed me =i already have crohnes so it just kicked it up good to kick me everywhere making my pain elavate everywhere!
healing prayers & angels to watch & guide "US" all
Hope things improve soon.
Gentle hugs
Saying he will "try" to get along with you is so much hogwash. In the immortal words of Yoda, "do or do not - there is no try."
He either wants to make it work or he doesn't - his words are saying one thing and his behavior another. Behavior is the truth - not words.
He drove to a state park, lived in his car for three days without eating, made himself very sick, and then came back and checked himself into a psych ward. Didn't really help him, as he was a master at telling the docs what they wanted to hear, but it stopped the cycle for a while.
The only person any of us can control is ourselves. We are NOT responsible for anyone else, no matter how close the relationship. What they do is on them. This kind of threat, when made during arguments, or over and over again when the person threatening is not getting what they want, is pure manipulation, and giving into it is enabling.
This is very much like addiction in the sense that he will either get help or die - and there is nothing you could or should do about it - it's on him either way.
I Blamed myself...his family Blamed me...Very dark time in my Life...am STILL Traumatized to this day...25 YEARS later..
Your man is All grown up now...either he gets himself some Real help or he cares Nothing for the relationship...IF he Truly Loves you...he would NOT want to harm YOU/this Relationship this way...what he does is ON Him.