Fibromyalgia Support Group
You're not alone in your pain. Fibromyalgia is a condition that can be difficult to diagnose and manage. If you're trying to cope with pain throughout your body, sleep problems, general fatigue, or other common fibromyalgia symptoms, you're in the right place. The community is here for you to talk about therapies and share your challenges.
I try to see each day as a sunny one but when my hubby comes home the black clouds hits I didn't do enough house work thats what it boils down to. all last night and today my lower back was killing me I couldn't go to the store he is pissed cause he needed the mushrooms of course he couldn't do it cause he is drunk he knew all this before he started drinking God forbid he goes shopping. I didn't sit on my ass all day I did a load of laundry and put the dirty dishes in the dish washer. He says this is just another excuse to sit on my ass and watch TV and don't forget I slept until noon. Im hoping my doc writes that letter to my husband give me a month supply of percocet. Im going to go crazy whatever he wants done gets done I will push myself overboard and when he has to pay for ER visits maybe he will relize then cause you involve money he pays attention.Im sorry I unloaded on you all I can't sleep Im being pulled in so many directions its hard to know where to start. I give the man credit cause he just spent over 300.00 to get me new glasses. But nothing has changed with my medical stuff I can't walk around the block with out this pain. doing dishes is the worse.I try to strech that area everyday I have no clue of the problem except I saw something on that Doctors show they can put spacers in your spine maybe thats what I need its new so I prey my Docs do the surgery Well I bored ya enough
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I don't really know how to label this but I having a rough week and I can't say it's one thing.... I have a lot on my plate which is nothing new and I try to cope in many positive ways and do but I still have my moments.My kids more so my daughters talk to me about everything which I know it's cause of comfort and we are close.... however I really struggle with the venting about their dad which...
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I did the dumbest thing today. I charged my earbuds, unplugged the block and put the block in my little bag instead of the earbuds. I wasn't happy about that when I got to the gym. What a dummy!
I don't know it amazes me how people say in sickness and health and they really mean as long as in sickness doesn't mess up what they want done.
Hopefully you can do something to get through to him though. I know it's easier said than done but try not to let him get you down. If you stress yourself out it's only going to make you worse.
Had he done some research on your conditions maybe he would know that.
His attitude is his problem, not yours. You do NOT need to try to change his attitude. Change how you view the situation. If he comes home and vents like this, and you can tell it is venting, let it go.
When it comes to doing projects around the house I have learned to take it slow and keep it separate into fifteen minutes parts.
I do the dishes in part, and that keeps that on level. When something needs to be bought from the store, I do several fifteen minutes parts and then I reward myself with the trip to the store. It is a matter of looking at it as your normal daily living activity schedule. I take naps - I get up in the morning, do what I can, then lay down for a bit. I go to bed at night, and spend a routine with hubby that puts the sickness aside.
You have this, do not let it rule your life, you rule it, and make the best of it. It's really hard to push through, however, it's worth the rewards in enjoying the relationship!
Best wishes.
As far as the ER, I called to tell him I was there and he told me to keep him posted. He almost ended up in the ER when I got home:)
Credit for buying you glasses???? He is your husband. He is suppose to take care and provide and protect you. At least that is what I thought. What happened to the White horse??
I guess all I can tell you that you are not alone on this.
I know my world will seem like the grass is greener on this side of the fence. And although I have a very understanding hubby, he still has his moments.
I see the frustration in his eyes
I see his need to fix me and then fail as I do.
I see his disappointment
But what I want to share with you is this.
I have learned not to talk to my hubby anymore about my pain. If he chooses to acknowledge my pain, he will. If not, I have no expectations that he has to.
I have also learned that he can not tolerate me being down for too long (this is typically in the 2-3 day window time frame). Because of this, I have learned to push through the pain. The biggest thing I learned is that I'm not damaging my body when I do this. I've also learned how to pace myself.
And I'm not about to begin to share how I know what it feels like what you are going through. Because it's clear I don't.
But I can only encourage you to find someone near you to provide a respite/break away from being treated this way. Whether this is family, a church, even taking the bus somewhere for a break away. Something.
I've learned if you allow yourself to be swallowed up by this kind of treatment, you'll dissolve away.
And like others have shared, if you know that he's just venting. Then let that roll off your back. I know our backs take a beating to this...but it's what makes us strong.
My prayers go out to you hun!
Pushing through the pain actually does release anxiety naturally, which is helpful for the pain release.
It does not change how he looks at it, just how you cope with it.
Hope all this helps.