I would appreciate some feedback.  In 2012 my mother passed away.  She was a widow living alone for 14 years in an apartment. I live 300 miles from her. In the months leading up to her death i was travelling to see her a few times a month up until she died at the hospital.  

I have one brother.  She divorced my father in 1986. All those years later he was willing to help her, but she refused.  My mother's mother, passed away in 2010.  My mother had depression to compound her physical problems.  She was supposed to take medication for pain control etc,.  My brother would talk to her like she was the dog.  Very condescending.  I witnessed it.  He wanted POA while she was in the hospital.  I am the oldest. He is not a very responsible person and I did not like the idea of him having POA, but he was closest in location to her and someone had to be able to make a decision if needed to I agreed reluctantly.  

Long story short, when she passed away, my brother was irate about him having to " deal with her belongings" and I was not around to help.  He wanted the power but not the responsibility that goes with POA.  After she died POA is gone.  I came and rented a truck to empty her apartment.  I informed my brother we needed to pay rent, to which he refused.  I was going to do my 1/2 and we were going to split the personal belongings of mom.  I really did not want that much.  

He called me, after drinking the night before we were going to do this. He threatened me by saying he was calling the police on me because he wanted to sue me in probate court over mom's possessions.  Therefore, I cannot take anything.  So I left with my wife, and went home and hired my own attorney to close the estate.  We sent him correspondance to do the same himself.  I WAS NOT going to court over $10k in personal property.  We gave him a proposal that he gets all of mom's property and split the pictures in 1/2 with me.   He dragged his feet for the rest of 2012 doing his side of things to close the estate.  He would send nasty emails to my attorney threatening him.  We told the other lawyer, get it in gear or else we will file 1/2 with Ohio and you can figure the rest out. 

My brother's wife divorced him not long after my mother died.  I dont know exactly, but I would say 6-7 months.  I have not spoke to him since June of 2012.  The last time he came to see me in Indiana was 1999.   I believe I am owed a BIG apology, that will probably never come.  When my father dies I will see him then, but do I have to accept this is what it is?  I did not do anything wrong.  The money mother had was split equally between us.  He is a very jealous person and I believe if I never speak to him again, I cannot feel guilty about it.   His way of dealing with problems is to threaten people and make situations worse.   Appreciate any feedback.

Tim