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Dad and brother had a court appearance today and were offered their plea deals. It was pretty much what we expected for prison time (though more probation time than I thought) but it just makes it so real.
I know that they are in a lot of ways lucky and they could have gotten far worse but it just all seems so unfair. They are not a danger to their community. I am worried that my brother will hurt himself or worse. He doesn't really talk about things he just pretends he is fine but I know that he is not fine. I am worried that my dad won't be able to handle prison. I don't think he's ever gotten so much as a speeding ticket. He has been a total wreck since their arrest. Most of all I am worried for my mom. She has to be the strong one holding everyone together. I just wish I could make things better for her.
I know that we just have to deal with the cards we've been dealt but its hard to cope. Its going to be awhile before I am ok. I wish I had made an appointment with my therapist earlier (they couldn't get me in for a few weeks) but I don't know if that really would have helped anyway. I just feel like I want to curl up in a ball and make the world disappear. Hopefully I'll be able to make plans with some friends tonight or something. I am needing a shoulder to cry on.
Sentencing in October. They really like to drag this out and make you hurt for as long as possible, don't they?
I know that they are in a lot of ways lucky and they could have gotten far worse but it just all seems so unfair. They are not a danger to their community. I am worried that my brother will hurt himself or worse. He doesn't really talk about things he just pretends he is fine but I know that he is not fine. I am worried that my dad won't be able to handle prison. I don't think he's ever gotten so much as a speeding ticket. He has been a total wreck since their arrest. Most of all I am worried for my mom. She has to be the strong one holding everyone together. I just wish I could make things better for her.
I know that we just have to deal with the cards we've been dealt but its hard to cope. Its going to be awhile before I am ok. I wish I had made an appointment with my therapist earlier (they couldn't get me in for a few weeks) but I don't know if that really would have helped anyway. I just feel like I want to curl up in a ball and make the world disappear. Hopefully I'll be able to make plans with some friends tonight or something. I am needing a shoulder to cry on.
Sentencing in October. They really like to drag this out and make you hurt for as long as possible, don't they?
Hang in there. Hope you find some friends to support you. If not, lots of us here are here for you.
Thanks for the support. I really needed it. Hugs all around <3
My brother isn't doing as well. He just refuses to talk about it at all and hasn't spoken a word to anyone. He has always been that way and it never ends well. He always ends up blowing up and doing something stupid. I am starting to worry more about him even though he is definitely the stronger of the two by far.
I am definitely a worrier though. So hopefully I am just worrying for nothing. There's not much I can do but be there for him if he does decide he wants to talk.
I suspect that it was because their arrest was part of a larger statewide investigation and they wanted to arrest everyone at once and make headlines. Once they were actually arrested, everything proceeded very quickly.
As you can see, they are clearly dangerous criminals who need to be locked away. So dangerous, in fact, that we waited 3 and a half years to arrest them. It will be 4 years by the time they actually go to prison.
So just because they raided your house in 2012 and they did not even look at the evidence until 2013, with your husband being arrested at a later date, if the time between the actual arrest and trial was not inordinately lengthy, then the government did not violate your husband's right to a speedy trial.
I think the government has something like 60 or 70 days from the date of the arrest to get a defendant to trial without violating the Sixth Amendment of the United States Constitution unless the attorney waives the right to a speedy trial.
In fact, here is the legal definition-----
"""The right to a speedy trial does not apply to every stage of a criminal case. It arises only after a person has been arrested, indicted, or otherwise formally accused of a crime by the government. Before the point of formal accusation, the government is under no Sixth Amendment obligation to investigate, accuse, or prosecute a defendant within a specific amount of time."""
I hope this clears things up a bit.
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It sets out the maximum time that the government has to initiate legal proceedings from the date of an alleged offense.
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I would be happy to drag it out as long as possible if he is free and not incarcerated.
My reasoning is that at least he doesn't have to live under the rules of ML. until he under parole.
AND if he can....see if your attorney can bargin a time when he gets OFF Megans law and get it on paper.
Parole for life is a horrible sentence that most dont know they are agreeing to until its time for them to get released. then they say too themselves "WTF did I DO when I took that plea bargin.".
Clarify it now Before sentencing !!!