thumperjoe, i will communicate that to them and have them discuss it with their respective lawyers. Thank you for the advice! I do have it on good authority that at least my father's lawyer is one of the best and is familiar with these types of crimes.

However, the judge is extremely unsympathetic and basically admits that she hates hearing these cases. My mom said she thinks that they will each have only 10 years on the registry but she wasn't sure.

I agree that its not a terrible thing to put it off. It was also more time that my dad could work before being forced to retire. The longer he works, the less they will struggle financially and the less pressure there is on my mom.

The thing that sucked was sitting for 3+ years in limbo wondering when the call would come. I still am deathly afraid of cops because of the way they entered our home. Selfishly, I am glad that I no longer live with my parents because I would be constantly fearful of another search.

My hubby was falsely accused of a crime. We drug it out for as long as we could///over a year before it went to trial

I think that is so stupid to do that. We were raided in 2011 and it was a year before we heard anything. After he was taken (yes so dangerous they let him stay home until sentenced) I fell apart. Our daughter was a wreck until that time. It affects everyone so different.
His attorney said, now did you ever see Shawshank? well it is like that. Scared my love one to death. When he got there, said it was nothing like that. And he has adapted well. We have great faith and try not to be anxious, it will all work out.

Let your brother know there are a lot of young men just like him there and if he just doesn't get involved in prison politics and just be Switzerland, he will do just fine.

There are many many good people on this board that will talk you through what will keep them safe in prison. Many good people that will help YOU with all that you and your mother will deal with as well. Listen to them and take their advice! It has been a life saver for me and my guy.

I'm sorry, I don't remember all the details - are they being held in a county facility? Is it nearby? Is your mom able to visit? Yes, I agree. Waiting until October for sentencing is very hard. Actually knowing what their terms are will bring you some peace because it won't be hanging over you anymore. Just keep writing, keep talking to them. This is hard - it has been hard for each and every person here. Just know you're not alone.

@means
I dont trust anything that has to do with the courts. I dont trust attorneys, Judges, cops, Parole officers....none of them. I try and find holes in the system.
Im at a point where *I* carry a voice recorder when dealing with any of them. I document everything and send emails and write letters memorializing EVERY conversation.
My Son's P.O. Lied out his ass. PB backed him up. State of NJ refuses to take a formal complaint against the P.O. Even up to the AG's office with proof!!
There is only one way. RESEARCH. Find laws that apply through research. Do your homework.
Keep Records. Memorialize!!!

Meanreds, did they try to negotiate the deals? File continuences?

Oh and for how long are the prison sentences

They are both out on bond so they are home with my mom. Mostly it has just been a struggle dealing with the stress this is causing them. We are in many ways very fortunate that things went the way they did. They only have a year in prison and I think that they will do ok. It will not be easy but I am trying to put things in perspective.

I am also realizing as we go through this more and more that although they have my support, they haven't always been the best people or made the best choices. Their choices are what got them in this mess. I will always support them no matter what, but I think I am finding more peace in realizing that I am in no way responsible for their actions. I still completely disagree with the consequences they are facing but I am getting over the whole "I should have done something different so this didn't happen" phase.

For the longest time I blamed myself for making sure they didn't talk to the cops or making sure their computers were clean. Sometimes I feel like I have to protect everyone (I am a control freak I guess) but at least if theres something positive I can take from this, it is learning to let go.

There was a lot of negotiation, and I guess the original deal was 2 years. I don't really know the details. I don't have much control over what goes on. I live out of state so I only hear what they choose to tell me. I do pass on advice from here though and it has been very helpful. I do believe my brother's lawyer when she says that this was probably the best they were going to get.

My husband too suffered a lot for the Nolle Contendre Plea. He never molested a minor. What had accurred in past is that this 8 year old kid had this behavior of touching the p..... when he walk pass her and when he do something in the kitchen----a behavior that he told his wife (now ex-wife) so she could discipline her child. And because of money issue, that small thing became big and put my husband in jail and ill-advise my his own lawyer to plea a guilty plea to lower the imprisonment for 6 months and no registration. What happened was the opposite: the 6 months become 1 year and 2 years probation, plus a registration, plus the agonizing effect wherever you go and even on airport of your own country. I wish he could have fight until the last penny...