Families of SOs Community Group
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http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Incest-Survivors/support-group
I am very upset going to this link and reading what they have said about our group. Who are they to say it should be removed and taken down. We are here to support each other and do a pretty good job most of the time!
Here are some things they have said:
These parents of sex offenders are posting things like, "my heart is broken for my child, who is in jail for child pornography." They're throwing a pity party for their children, saying they have had suicidal thoughts.
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I try VERY to be understanding of others and not judgmental, but this is just complete bull to me! I'm so pissed off right now. It makes my blood boil.. it takes everything inside of me NOT to comment on their damn group. UGH!
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It's just totally unjust that such a group even exists here. These people are sick and feeding off of each other. They all need a wake up call and to understand that their very sympathy for the offender and their wallowing in how hard for THEM is just revictimizing the victims! How can we report this to DS? Can we take a stand?
And it goes on and on - Bailey somewhat of the ring leader. I can't understand why they care what is going on or who is supporting who in our group. All they have to do is stay out if they don't like what we say...
I am very upset going to this link and reading what they have said about our group. Who are they to say it should be removed and taken down. We are here to support each other and do a pretty good job most of the time!
Here are some things they have said:
These parents of sex offenders are posting things like, "my heart is broken for my child, who is in jail for child pornography." They're throwing a pity party for their children, saying they have had suicidal thoughts.
MORE:
I try VERY to be understanding of others and not judgmental, but this is just complete bull to me! I'm so pissed off right now. It makes my blood boil.. it takes everything inside of me NOT to comment on their damn group. UGH!
MORE:
It's just totally unjust that such a group even exists here. These people are sick and feeding off of each other. They all need a wake up call and to understand that their very sympathy for the offender and their wallowing in how hard for THEM is just revictimizing the victims! How can we report this to DS? Can we take a stand?
And it goes on and on - Bailey somewhat of the ring leader. I can't understand why they care what is going on or who is supporting who in our group. All they have to do is stay out if they don't like what we say...
i think one of the misunderstanding is that this board is here for families and those trying to cope with their lives after the fact. if it appears we have no concern for the victims it is because this board was set up for families and those on the registry trying to find answers on how they can re-enter society in spite of the stigma, however, we have some members that are working with sex abuse prevention and awareness groups that understand the seriousness of these violations and want to find sensible ways to do all we can to help educate families, help the victims overcome the devastating affects this has had on their lives, and at the same time help the offender and their families stay together. it is not easy juggling this with all the time and energy we are expending just fighting for the future of our families and loved ones, but i believe we could accomplish so much if we unite in this effort.
i think one of the things that was the most unsettling, as i read your board, is how some in your group have no empathy for those that are innocent whose lives are ruined in the name of child protection. was the abuse in their lives so debilitating to have taken away any and all compassion towards others? in that, i do feel as though they are not able (or willing?) to get out of the cycle of being a victim. hanging, castration and/or lifetime incarceration of over 750,000 men women and children on the registry is not going to stop future abuse. the sooner we all realize this the quicker we can find ways to find preventative measures to decrease the violations to begin with.
would love to spend more time working on bringing this about but the truth is i am spending so much time and energy just finding a way my son can have a future against all the adversities he will be facing, as you can see, finding a place that will rent to us, a job, and education he so desperately wants will be daunting. he has a lot to offer with his experience, if given a chance, he could help other kids that are going down the road he traveled but that will never happen, a real shame and disservice to everyone.
i will welcome courteous interaction from both sides, and i still hold out hope we can have open respectful debates. maybe even set up a board that will focus solely on this topic? respectively-j-