Before this day is over FIND A GOOD CRIMINAL DEFENSE ATTORNEY. TODAY. NOW. GET HIM ON RETAINER.

He can advise you what to do. I don't know if he will advise you to turn yourself in, but he will most certainly advise you not to talk to the police or anyone in law enforcement about your case.

DO NOT TALK TO THE POLICE!!!!!

DO NOT TALK TO THE POLICE UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES!!!!!

TURN YOURSELF IN IF THE LAWYER ADVISES BUT KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT!!!!!!

The police will tell you they want "your side of the story" or "that they would like for you to clear some things up." That is a damn lie. They want to make it easier for them to nail your hide to the wall by you giving them more information to use against you.

Anything---no matter how innocent it sounds---will be used against you to make it harder on you.

YOUR FUTURE IS AT STAKE!!!!!

Many a man has thought he could "help out" or "explain things" to make it easier on everyone, but they did nothing but TALK THEIR WAY INTO PRISON.

DO NOT fall for that trap. They only want to get you talking about the incident. They will then turn everything you say against you. They will want more information for additional counts or charges.

They will try to nail your butt to the wall. Yes, I know by turning yourself in you might be admitting guilt, but let's keep the damage to a minimum.

No matter how nice they sound or how much they seem to understand your crime, keep your lips zipped up.

When they start their business of "help us out by clearing this misunderstanding up", you only need to say a few words AND STICK WITH IT.

Memorize these words, "I will make no statements without my attorney being present." PERIOD. ZERO.

Many people think cops are somehow judges and if they could only explain their side of the story the police will weigh that against what the victim tells them and let you go. THAT IS NOT TRUE. They already most likely have their mind made up that you are guilty in the worst way. They are not judges.
They do not weigh evidence. THEY MAKE ARRESTS. PERIOD.

Remember this: The cops only ever want to talk to three types of people---witnesses to a crime, victims of a crime, and suspects. You can bet your last dollar that if you are not a witness or a victim, then they consider you a suspect.

Do not make it any easier for them to nail you.

EVERYONE WHO HAS HAD DEALINGS WITH LAW ENFORCEMENT WILL TELL YOU THE SAME THING. Many people on this very board are here partially because they talked to the "friendly" police.

I did not even read through all your post. I just started typing to help you. It is that important.

Please, heed these warnings.

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Also do not sign ANYTHING. NOTHING.

Never trust law enforcement. You have a wife and business that needs you.

I don't know if you have previously spoken with them, but now is the time to shut up. No matter what they say----and they will try different tactics----do not talk to them about anything. Even the weather.

Let's minimize the damage.

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frogpond1- Please listen to Rewd- regardless of what you think you have done- the police ARE NOT your friend DO NOT speak with them - Call a good sex offender defense attorney - you should be able to find one in your state who can practice in RI or refer you to one in RI-

Your feelings of regret and guilt for "cheating" on your wife is not a reason to commit a worse mistake by being lead to legal slaughter at the hands of law enforcement and the DA.

One day underage girls who lie about their age so they can have sex should be prosecuted for solicitation to commit a felony.......

What REW said; get ye to a lawyer ASAP. If you can afford a criminal one, super! Just get a lawyer!!! I'm here b/c my LO (Autistic) talked to the friendly officer!!! It was such a trap. After a lawyer had been secured the same Agent set yet another trap/meeting. When the lawyer was advised of this "meeting" he dropped what he was doing to attend said "meeting". Needless to say; once the agent caught wind of this he never showed :-( This is my government at work. Needless to say, it's been a nightmare

We cannot afford a lawyer unfortuneatly and I have searched high and low for one in RI under one of the advocacy groups.

Fortunately the PD office even though it isn't obligated to help me until I end up in court has been EXTREMELY helpful. I can't thank them enough. Hell even the RI bailbondman has been helpful.
So I know enough not to say a word.

The solicitation charges are what scare me the most and what I and my wife will possibly be facing. Any jail time no matter how short isn't something that our situation could handle.

Oh, wow. I'm praying for you and your wife. Caregiver stress is bad enough. Now you have to deal with this AND try to figure out how to make sure her needs are met.

We don't live in a compassionless world, but there are definitely holes in the fabric. You have just slipped through one of the worst. This is likely to take a lot of your time. Do you have family that can help your wife while you wade through this?

I wish I could be there to lend a hand...

Not really... probably the most messed situation I could've gotten myself into. We are our own support system with a few close friends but everyone else lives far away.

Keep researching and come on this site. We will all try to help as best as we can. Check out the RSOL website for your state for support, too, and talk to your attorney or PD a lot! Keep us posted and ask questions…anything. It will be doable and you will get through this…regardless.

I will keep everyone posted with my process and in turn maybe it will give insight into the process here in RI and CT.

I have come to terms with what will happen tomorrow. It is not the meeting with the prosecutor, the discovery process, nor is it the trial. It is simply the plea and to find out if I have bail or released on my own recognizance.

Here's what bothers me about the justice system; The first thing you do is get processed, photographed, fingerprinted, etc. It's almost as if your half convicted already. What happened to innocent until proven guilty?

Here's the info for the RSOL Affiliate in Connecticut.

Connecticut – Connecticut Voices

Website: http://www.connecticut-voices.org
Address: PO Box 9534 New Haven, CT 06534
Phone:
Primary Contact: Brian – contact@connecticut-voices.org
Secondary Contact: -
Blog http://ctsexoffenderlawreform.blogspot.com

Dave in the Philippines

Frogpond,

You asked what happened to innocent until proven guilty?

That went out the window with "cops don't lie," "law enforcement is your friend", "children always tell truth," and that "our justice system tries to be fair."

Be prepared to experience a big loss of innocence and disappointment when you see how the system really works. You will find that many things you thought you knew about our system of government was just lies.

A criminal indictment and the ensuing investigation will knock the Polyanna out of anyone in a hurry.

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Well today was interesting. Anybody wanting the particulars feel free to ask. What I thought was the plea portion ended up as "no plea entered" and a 100k bail set. When the charges were read there were several gasps from the court room. So, automatically I was convicted by the public there even though nothing else happened. Luckily the public defender stated that I turned my self in, have no priors and am taking care of my disabled wife. Bail reduced to 10k and the bail bondsman that was there was the best and sat with my wife the whole time and helped her out when needed.

The most frightening part was when we visited the public defenders office in the court house and those same people that were in the court room were there and we started receiving threats, the whispers and looks. And we are so far off from any trial.

Thanks dbradford!

If you have a good criminal defense attorney, he will stall and ask for continuances and stretch this thing out as long as possible. This might be nerve wracking for you, but you can bet it is just as stressful for the "victim."

Why stall? Delays almost always work out in favor of the defendant. Witnesses memories begin to fade with the passage of time and "victims" start thinking about the process and get cold feet.

Sometimes with time, "victims" just want to get it over with. They are no longer mad and just want to put it behind them. That is when you get a good plea deal.

DAs are overworked and they want to lighten their work load by resolving their cases. Sometimes a defendant that is patient can stall long enough and get enough continuances that the DA just throws up his hands and offers a sweetheart of a deal just to get the case out of the way

My theory is and has always been this----continuances buy a defendant time. Every day that he is still walking free and has not been convicted yet is a victory.

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