I agree do not speak with DA! That's the worst and other than that, never trust a probation officer. They act nice to you but in the end, they try to hurt your loved ones. I can attest to this because the PO lied on the stand about my son and me! She tried to make it look like I was friends with my son's psychologist. I would not talk with anyone! Good Luck!

Thanks everyone For your replies. The only reason why I spoke to the DA was because my husband's attorney said that she would be calling me. My husband's attorney used to work for the DA's office before she started her own practice so she personally knows this prosecuting attorney. his attorney also said that this prosecuting attorney was way better than the previous one and that she would be willing to take a plea deal where as the other prosecuting attorney would not.

Everyone my daughter is the victim, she's not the alleged victim, but is the victim because my husband did admit to doing it. I have been in contact with my husband's attorney from day one and I have told her what the prosecuting attorney had said to me. we discussed it and she says it's a good thing for my husband. Although I am still kind of leery of what she has said to me I still don't understand the 3 to 5 years if there is a charge that has a minimum term of 15 years of life.

I wish I could afford an attorney for both me and my daughter however I am a single mother right now with four children. I hope that something good comes out of his court hearing today with both the prosecuting attorney and his defense

Yeah in cases like this take 3-5 years and run with it if you can. If your husbands attorney recommended you to talk to the DA she must have known there is nothing you could have told the DA that would harm your husband's case more since he has already admitted guilt.

Sorry that we all jumped over you not talking to the DA, we just want everyone to know you can't trust the DA, they don't have your best interest at heart. However, if your hubby's attorney said to do so she must have a good reason for it and I would listen to her.

I have a difficult time holding much credence in the 3 to 5 years. Hell, she is adding more charges----15 to life.

I think the 15 to life was only added as a scare tactic to get him to plea for a much lesser amount. As Independent mentioned, DAs make their living stacking charges and then allowing a person to plea to a reduced sentence for a term they should have received in the first place.

It is the "LIFE" in the 15 to life that scares the hell out of defendants.

If he can get a 3 to 5 year sentence, he had better take it and run. That is a good deal.

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To me the fact that your husband's attorney worked for the DA doesn't give me the warm and fuzzy that it gives others. In fact it makes me more suspicious. But I am an untrusting soul and was raised that way when it comes to anyone that says they work for me because I pay taxes and I vote for them. They do not work for me, nor have they ever. They work for the government entity that pays their paycheck, otherwise I would have more say in things like disciplinary actions and things, which I do not. It would be like me saying that I own a part of Walmart thus can tell the Store Manager to get off their fat ass and come work a register when they are backed up into the store. Or I could order my loan officer to give me the money because I am a member at the credit union and thus they are my employee and should do what I say. LOL OH I WISH! But you probably are getting my point.

The DA doesn't work for anyone but themselves and their own belt notching activities. The fact that she essentially threatened you with that 15-life, even if it didn't feel like a threat, that just indicates how good she is at her job. She called you up, asking you questions hoping to either bolster her case, be able to garner a new charge out of it to use as leverage, etc... This is not the kind of behavior of someone that is trustworthy or honorable.

The fact that your husband's attorney didn't suggest you have your own attorney is not looking all that good on her part either. Even if she knows the ins and outs of the DA's office, she doesn't work for them anymore, even if she feels compelled to have 'good relations' with them because she worked there. She should also know better that all witnesses, including those with the best intentions can do irrecoverable harm to a defendants case even with the most minor things that can be said and interpreted.

That DA called you up and threatened you and your family. Your husband's defense attorney seemed to condone it... This scares me for you....

I have to admit - I am with Wisconsin here - I think you are being used and played by these guys and if nothing else you should give your attorney hell!

If you can't afford an attorney, at least find out what yours and your daughter's rights are. They will lie, cheat, whatever it takes to win a case.
If they try to push this to trial, know your rights, as they do not care about your daughter. My daughter suffered more testifing than the abuse she suffered from hubby.

Thank you thoughtasweak. I will probably have to setup an appt with the Navy legal office then and speak to an attorney.

(wisconsin) That DA called you up and threatened you and your family. Your husband's defense attorney seemed to condone it... This scares me for you....

(Rew) It is the "LIFE" in the 15 to life that scares the hell out of defendants.

totally and completely agree with these 2 statements, but i would add "families" to Rew's statement.

Yes, having a lawyer there to represent what your daughter wants is important. Sometimes the victim and the prosecutor are on the same page, sometimes they are not, the prosecutor only cares what the victims want when it lines up with what they want to do. Otherwise they will tell you it's out of their hands and do what they were going to do in the first place.

Having a lawyer for your daughter at least helps her be heard by the prosecutor.

This is not going to trial thoughtasweak, he already admitted guilt. Now it's about minimizing the damage for all parties involved.

I understand that he admitted guilt, but if they refuse to give a decent plea deal, it will go to trial. Hubby admitted it too, and offered 20 yrs vs 30 to life. He would have taken a plea of 3-5 if offered, but his PD didn't want to fight for him, and DA said daughter didn't know what she wanted as I was "manipulating her into what (I) wanted, and disn't care about her, only (hubby)", even though I was the one that turned him in.

You want what your daughter wants - you need someone who will fight for her on the legal side of things. Please, just get a consult, but if it heads to trial - GET AN ATTORNEY! I cannot stress this enough. They tried to take my kids for fighting what daughter wanted.

Independent there is no such thing... It is the DA figuring out how to guarantee a notch in their belt with the least effort possible. If they wanted to minimize damage, they would be talking about treatment now, only supervision and no prison time. This is not about minimizing no matter what the snake oil salesman/DA says.

Attorneys can not be trusted unless YOU are the one paying them, even then it is sketchy. Anyone that says they work for you because you pay taxes is lying to you outright. Probably best to walk away from them as fast as you can.

That DA was fishing, the husband's attorney has essentially given up defending or they would be talking to you and your daughter about representation. The fact that they didn't only makes me more suspicious of their motives and intentions. They don't care about your family, if you think they do, look around at holidays and when you are in dire straits later on for whatever reason, if they were friends and cared about you and your family they would be there, and I can tell you right now, they won't be.

And whether this goes to trial or not, there is still a sentencing hearing that will happen, here is when NO MATTER WHAT THE PLEA AGREEMENT IS, the judge will do whatever they want. The prosecution will use whatever information they have gathered to make the judge pick the number they want. this means anything you said and will say to them can be used however out of context they like as it is only what was said, not the context in which they were said that matters in court, both of law and public opinion.

Normally a prosecutor calling you to discuss the case is out of line, but in this scenario I think his lawyer may be correct to cooperate with the DA. There is nothing to be gained from not cooperating, they hold all the cards. Literally, every last one of them. If they go to trial, he will get 15-life. He has already admitted guilt, how hard would it be for the DA to get a conviction for whatever they want? Not difficult.

The only card left to play is to play nicely with the DA and try to bargain for the best sentence possible.

Wisconsin, I'm right there with you! it seems like the DA and defense are TOO cozy. And the OP ought to see if she can get an lawyer of some sort to protect her interests, legal aid etc.
The whole thing still seems scuzy