So let me get this straight-----the DA called you "wanting to know what YOU thought" but then proceeded to tell you she added ANOTHER charge that had a term of 15 to life????????

She's ADDING charges, but she wants your "opinion" as if you are a friend????

Nice lady, this bitch!!!! And I would not be talking to her again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Refer her to your attorney.

She said she would "work" with the OTHER charges and was looking at somewhere between 3-5 years.

How can anything be 3-5 years if she added a charge with a minimum of 15 years???

She needs to be talking to your attorney, not you.

I agree that a psychological profile is a good idea, but let your attorney handle these things.

This woman is not your friend.

rewdiazepam

My first instinct is DON'T TRUST THE D.A.!!! She should be talking to defense attorney. Sounds like she's on a fishing expedition.
I guess it could be just me... the Asst. D.A. in my hubby's case was only concerned with one thing: her career. Not the truth, and not really even the accuser. I'd hate to be a real victim and have her prosecuting the case, cos it's plain as day, the victims are only a means to an end for her.
But yeah... I still say, don't trust the D.A.

Fishing expedition indeed!!!

Notice that she did not ask questions that could be answered with a simple "yes" or "no" but asked you "what you thought"----as if it really mattered what you thought.

She asked a question that required a narrative----a longer response that would cause you to interject your thoughts. She wanted to get you talking in hopes you would say something to help her case.

She is asking what you "thought about the case" yet she is sticking another charge with a possible life sentence????? What does that tell you?

She is on a fishing expedition to get you talking about the case so she can hang your guy. Keep your lips sealed. Let your attorney do the talking.

This woman is nothing but trouble. Avoid her at all costs.

rewdiazespam

Is your husband not represented by council??? You should have a seperate attorney for your daughter as well if you can afford it.

She may also be trying to ascertain whether you knew of or suspected abuse so she can press charges against you. Not meant to scare you, but just to warn.

The DA had the gull to say I was manipulating daughter, that's why she didn't want a long prison sentence. I agree with others here, the DA doesn't care about either of your thoughts/feelings, except if it was for harsher sentence. The DA even sent CPS to my door as a thank you for supporting my daughter in what she wanted.

Get an attorney to protect both of you. They will lie and force both of you to do things that you don't have to do. You need an attorney that will push back with your rights. Believe me, from one mother to another, you need an attorney to fight for what your daughter wants without getting charges against you, or CPS at your door.

I hate to say this, but why did you talk to her at all? If you don't agree with what they are doing (prosecuting your husband) then it is always best that you refer them to your attorney and tell them nothing. "Anything you say CAN and WILL be used against you..." This applies to anyone talking to anyone about the case, period.

I don't mean to come off harshly, but this is something that is preached regularly on this forum. DAs are no exception, they are more deadly than the police.

That bitch was definitely on a fishing expedition and it sounds like she also got what she was looking for, YOUR cooperation. Just because the District attorney is prosecuting the case does not mean you have to cooperate with that office. Even if a victim recants, says outright they lied, the prosecution will keep at it if they believe they have a good enough case to put a notch on their belt.

I will say this again even though I thought it was said enough just a week or so ago, NEVER EVER TALK TO THE POLICE, THE DA, THEIR INVESTIGATORS...... NOT A SOUL BUT YOUR ATTORNEY, NOT EVEN YOUR FRIENDS IF YOU CAN HELP IT.

DA's are tricky like this. They'll do everything in their power to put as many charges on the table as possible to get the defendant to plead down to what they actually should be charging in the first place. It's such a polarized system, DAs want way too much punishment, defense attorneys want their clients to get no punishment (or are trying to minimize the damage). The answer usually lies somewhere in the middle, and with mandatory minimums judges can't be judges anymore, a monkey could be a judge. Just look at the charge and see the sentencing guidelines, it's stupid.

The same rules for the police apply to the prosecutor as well but even more so since they decide your fate to a bigger degree than even the cops! Don't ever talk to a DA without an attorney, EVER!

Great point Wisconsin, during a criminal proceeding it's best not to talk to anyone about the case, friends or family included. You don't want them to be called to the stand in s trial.

Do not talk them! also you need to immediately tell your lawyer(s) about this and let them deal with the DA - it may not have been illegal to do what she did but it was highly unethical!

It's not highly unethical for the DA to talk to the victim and the parent of a victim, you'll get no sympathy from the judge. It's their job to talk to the victim, in this situation though it gets really murky, what she did was sneaky and is why your daughter and you should be represented by your own attorney. That way when the DA comes calling you say speak to my lawyer.

I did not see where she said that she or her daughter were the victim?

During any kind of legal proceeding NEVER TALK TO ANYONE ABOUT YOUR CASE OTHER THAN YOUR ATTORNEY. If you can help it. I can't express it enough when it comes to legal things, that talking to anyone without your attorney can cause more issues than it solves.

H3lpm3 just to clarify your daughter is the victim in this case?

Alleged victim*