Nah no one should kill themselves - no way. And no, Coasties I do not agree with many of your views but it does not mean I do not like you. This is not personal at all for me. I do think that many times those of you that have history of dispute here jump to conclusions. If you see a post by someone that you know you don't agree with read the post and move on - if you have a true comment fine but not if the comment is automatically volatile and challenging. I do not see the point in that.

OneofThem did not advocate unprotected sex and the statistics of who contracts AIDS and who does not has changed greatly over the years. Thinking that it is a Gay disease is very old World thinking.

It is consensual, it is adults (you can hope). you talking about meat markets? if that is your shallow cup of tea then who is anyone to say what works for you? all the preaching in the world is not going to change it. course there is a lot to be said about safe sex, aids and other stds are a reality that goes with the game. Actually i met my very long standing boyfriend at a neighborhood pub, just because you meet someone in a thirst parlor does not mean you jump straight into the sack, coastie.

The fallacy of oneofthem's advice is this works for very few people, as many prefer to stay away from such establishments. which leaves them with the dilemma of how to meet people, this is why the internet dating is so popular. I dont personally know anyone where this has worked for them either. quite the contrary, they have found they are often mislead. I would like to think that maybe taking classes in something he is interested in, like scuba diving or cake decorating, tap dancing...(lol), will at least get him out there meeting people.

did you not see the question mark? jerk! as in that is what coastie was suggesting...true, i should have said One's cup of tea and if that is what works for Them instead of insinuating i was talking about YOU...but yes i have been dragged to a few meat markets in the guise of night clubs - enough to know that aside from perhaps jazz clubs - yea they are about hooking up as i heard more of the stupidest pick up lines in night clubs...

The only thing I would say about going to clubs is just be careful in a common sense sort of way. If you're on paper there may be some stipulations that make it a good idea to avoid clubs but other than that the same pitfalls apply to everybody regardless of orientation, gender or status as an RSO.

Just for my own peace of mind I would make sure I had a smart phone or a tablet with me so I could perform background checks, age verification, employment history, credit history and whatever else I can think of. (joke)

I'm done with this thread.. I won't be checking it out to see any updates. because of coasties.. If you want to argue with someone start your own thread.. oh, this one is yours... now it is.

I met my fiancé on EH, even though he wasn't supposed to be on it. I found out 2 months into the relationship about his status. He was still on paper, but did not have any internet restrictions. I've always wanted to do the EH commercial to show that it worked for us, but he's afraid he might get in trouble.

Definitely not a good idea. They will for sure nail him for that.

Oneofthem...Thanks for the laugh.....BTW, I have nothing against clubs, I used to be a pretty fair dancer back in the day......"Hook Ups"/...Come on, I'm that stupid that I don't know what that means....OH, and as for the name calling....So what? I'm a grown up.."Sick and Stones" etc...It's not the first time you've called me names, but, because I am an adult and behave like one(usually) I have never called you names nor will I.

Nakohichi....
You haven't liked me since day one because like someone else, I don't always agree with you..That is your choice..Just remember that I have never attacked you in any way and I wish nothing but the best for your son and I mean that....I am off this thread from here on out so you don't have to worry about me and someone fighting....

Nakohichi....
You haven't liked me since day one because like someone else, I don't always agree with you..That is your choice..Just remember that I have never attacked you in any way and I wish nothing but the best for your son and I mean that....I am off this thread from here on out so you don't have to worry about me and someone fighting....

I don't know who you are and have never commented on you. So I don't know where you get that from. You've succeeding in taking a thread about my son and turning into your own agenda. This is the first time I've even responded to you. So I don't know what the fuck you're talking about.. You've also succeeded in making me not like your attitude. I don't dislike people. I don't like what some do however and you've gone too far.

Well. guess I can't edit my post but this one was a response to Coasties. WTF? is up with him?/ her? I don't even know Coasties.

Nakohichi I hope your son can find someone personal I would stay away from the sites tell him to be careful and to be honest and be himself.

Nakohichi.
I can't pm you so I want to apologize for taking my feud with oneofthem on to an unrelated thread, I should not have done it and I won't again.
It was about a year ago or so that you said that I said something that made you not want to be here.I don't remember what it was..We could look back a year or so ago and find it, but what's the point?
Yes, I am arrogant and I don't apologize for that, That is how I survive as an RSO...I am also a Conservative and that is one(The main) reason oneofthem hates me...The other reason is that lately, most of his advise is dangerous.
When your son gets out he will most likely be on Parole, yes?
Most likely his PO will not allow him to be on social sites, including this one...Also, most social sites will ban him because he is an RSO and if he uses a false name, his parole will be violated and he WILL go back to prison..
While on parole, if he gets caught in a club where the primary income is alcohol, he Will be violated and WILL go back to prison..
If he goes in to register and gives the registration people a hard time, he WILL go back to prison..
Unlike what someone said, he takes a 'poke' at a cop??? Even off parole??? He is going to jail....
He will need to remember, as a felon on parole he is subject to 'Search and Seizure... (In some States, just being a FELON subjects one to 'Search and Seizure).A cop can stop and search him, his house, his car, and even your house if he is there at the time...It sucks, but I am sure your son will say all this bullshit is better than prison...As an RSO on parole he has VERY few options...I am not religious, but Church is probably his best bet...(Some States won't even let him go to church on parole and some churches won't let RSO's even attend)....
Some don't like me because I don't let the system beat me...I don't whine and cry, it is what it is,I don't blame everyone who disagrees with me for my problems, I don't throw a temper tantrum and behave like a 3 year old who doesn't get his way.. I do my best to prove everyone wrong by doing my best to succeed.. Are there any vocational programs where he is at? If so, tell him to grab them with both hands and become the best he can...If he is the best he can be,(and oneofthem will hate this), the 'Fat Cats" that own the Company WILL hire him, RSO or not because he will benefit the Company...I know this from experience, I work for a multi national Company(Aerospace and Defense) and with the Obummer 'Sequester' there have been hundreds of lay offs...I am not even on the list(Nothing is certain these days)..I have heard some that know my past, that were laid off say "But he's a Pervert" and I have personally heard the VP of Manufacturing tell those same people that I am more valuable than them because of my experience and dedication...1 Tardy in 5 years, 0 call offs.(Been sent home a few times for illness, I ALWAYS try to work it off, once my Plant manager sent me home for 'Puking' on my work bench).
As much as it may suck , he needs to "Play the Game", that is all it really is, a VERY SERIOUS game, but it IS a game he can at least play to a draw

Please consider my advise tonight and if you don't want anymore, just say so and I'm gone.....

Sorry, on a side note...Oneofthem is the first person on the PLANET that has EVER called me a Racist...

Isn't the alcohol stuff a part of parole conditions?? They can eather have it as part of it ( as in its a no no) or not. Or is totally different over there to hear? Just askeing coz I was wondering.

Oh ok thanks oneofthem. I know it shouldn't be apart of my D parole.