That's kinda stinky. I'm pretty sure it's going to happen with the exhole and his skanktress too someday.

Just ask yourself "How does that change my life today?" Will it change your life at all? Will it matter? Really think about it. I think you will be surprised at the answer. That's what I ask myself if I think of the ex getting married again and truthfully it won't change or matter in my life at all.

It's different for everyone-especially those folks that still have to co-parent but it might not change your life as much as you think.

Sending happy thoughts your way.

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I cant even imagine what I would feel if my ex married the OW. I'm thinking... since they broke up I will be able to handle him committing to someone other than the affair OW better...but I'm guessing. Either way...its sad...its a definitive ending...no imaginary choices....which in one way is good but in another painful...again...I'm guessing.

My heart goes out to you TX...the only thing I can suggest is to acknowledge and verbalize what you do feel as the feelings come up. I would think its ok to feel sad, angry and disappointed...its another ending...aarrgg...as if we haven't felt that feeling enough already.

There are a few ways you can look at it. You could say to yourself...well he's her problem now...or...our story together has ended and now its time to write a my new chapter...or...I hope he has found his happiness now its my turn...stuff like that.

I wish I could be more help. Since I have not gone through that yet I can only imagine how I would feel...although its been my experience that what I imagine I would feel and what I actually feel are often different...Big hugs...Kathy

For me, it was a relief. He hadn't worked for years (that's another story) and I was fairly high earning so I could have been on the hook for spousal support. Once he remarried. no more problem under California law. He's cut off. If I'd known the date, I would have celebrated!

I can grasp and understand being married more than once if one of the spouses died but when divorce is involved the whole concept escapes me at this age. There are challenges in every marriage, bar none. It takes two who really do understand acceptance, dedication and commitment for a marriage to be worthwhile. The reason for the divorce can play a huge role however as to whether any subsequent marriage has a chance to be any more joyous than the first one. In an extremely generalized statement, I feel as though if 'the grass is greener' concept was involved in the divorce coming about then chances are it won't be long for that balloon to pop in the new marriage. Most of these individuals didn't respect the covenant of marriage before and likely have the same superficial concept of marriage to this day so the only thing that has changed are the players. If my ex was to remarry my base thought would be, "Good luck with that one." She didn't respect her vows to the person she raised a family with so I see less reasons why the glue that bonds would have greater holding strength in her new marriage.

This causes me to recall a conversation I had with a female coworker several years ago. I was saying 2nd or greater marriages have less chance to survive and she was saying getting it right may take more than once. (She was on her 4th or 5th marriage as was her husband and she felt she finally got it right, they had been married around 13 years at the time of our talk). A few years later, they too were on the threshold of a divorce, she had moved out and about 6 months later her husband came down with cancer and died. She had hardly seen him over those 6 months but yet held his hand as he passed away. What causes people to act as she did? In life, she was sick of him, in death she mourned. So I guess what your husband's modus operandi is when it comes to marriage would dictate how I'd feel. I'd feel my ex was wasting her time and energy because when the chips were down, she still couldn't grasp the true meaning of love. Notwithstanding bizarre or extreme behavior, the person who discounts the marriage vows will eventually find reason to do more of the same. Those who got left for 'greener grass' stand a better chance in subsequent marriages, given they've worked through the betrayal and can trust again. There is no pot of gold at the end of the rainbow and if pipe dreams and fairy tales are the driving factor for this wedding then it's a matter of time their newfound joy is laid evident, the emperor has no clothes. "Good luck with that one."

My ex apparently had a lot of ow. Only one did I blame because she was the only friend I had in that one stop light town. He learned to hide the others well. I don't really put any blame on them because I now know how convincing he can be.

My ex didn't just have a mistress; he married her while he was overseas. Yes, I was devastated when I found out and there was no reconciling what he did. I'm lucky because I've never seen her in person. My circumstances are different from yours. I have no ill will towards her. I put it right where that anger belonged and that was on him.

We are done, finished and its over. Our daughter is grown, and he now lives in the state where I was born. I think he will stay out of SC. I hope she is happy and he doesn't play games with her life like he did mine. A snake hiding in the grass is still a snake.

I asked myself a lot of questions while getting my divorce. I've found that my life hasn't changed much, I work a little longer and I seldom think about the ex. Actually when he committed bigamy it gave me the freedom to make the decisions that were right for me. That is probably why I feel differently about the other wife, new wife whatever she is.

Just work through your thoughts and feelings as they happen. Will his marriage really make a difference in your life now?

I wish mine would. Marry one just like his sister and mother. Controlling and malicious. If you think that they are going to trust and respect each other, think again. If they can do it with you, they can do it to you. I would not want to be living the life they have. Always looking over my shoulder, thinking where are they now, what are they doing. Even if they are in the same room, looking at them and wondering what are they laughing about with that woman. There is nothing we can do about their choices in life. But we can do everything about how we react to them. If you do see them, just smile, turn around and walk away. Hugs, my friend and smile.

About a year ago, I learned that the X had remarried just after I moved from Maryland to Florida! So I was really out of the loop on all that until almost a year earlier! However, the New Mrs. was NOT the OW. The OW had dumped him about 18 months AFTER our divorce was final. No big surprise...I was a little disappointed because I felt that the pair of lying, cheating scum DESERVED each other.

Anyway, X only knew this one for about 6 months! And the only thing that comes to MY mind is that she has NO IDEA what she has gotten herself into. I know that he would never tell her (or anyone) the real truth about why we ended up in divorce -- what man ever does admit having an affair? I can almost hear him saying, "We grew apart." Such bullshit! But a typical "explanation" for the one who strayed to use. Whatever. It doesn't matter, really. I don't wish him any ill will, but I do believe that Karma will get him at some point in time.

As for me, I've moved on and no longer have to deal with him.

- i expect the day will come in @ 2 years, i hope she waits until my youngest is out of high school
- it is the whole "family" dynamic (how is that for a sick world), and having to deal with
my kids dealing with him
me dealing with the slimeball around them and at the milestone events

- but, there is nada i can do AND i do like the advice above "what would it change for me ?", no point dwelling on emotion

You guys are GREAT!!!! It was funny because I thought I would be really emotional... but it didn't really feel that way. I hope that my boys handled it okay... my youngest is not crazy about her kids (my boys are 14 and 18) and her kids are in elementary school and 1 toddle/preschooler. They call the ex "daddy" and he treats them better than he does his own.

My ex just got married to the OW. He had moved to FL, where she lives about 2 years ago. My girls had to go to the wedding so I was alone for the weekend. I planned an overnight trip to the Casino in CT, with my best friend and had a great time. I won $1,000 - at the exact time they were saying their vows on a beach in the rain in FL. I had texted my kids telling them of my good fortune.

My ex's brother over heard and said - Everyone's a winner. LOL - I don't know about that, but I most certainly am. My life is much more peaceful and happy without having to walk on eggshells and worry if he was going to make it home in one piece.

They do deserve each other - that's for certain!

The day my ex married the OW, I was already dating dh, so didn't care much. He married her 2 months before his severence package ended and she's been supporting him ever since.

What I found humorous was my daughters all get ready at my place and wore black/gray to the ceremony at his house. :)

One of my son's wasn't even in some of thefamily pics!!!! :(

Honestly, I do wish them happiness!!! Everyone deserves that!

I'm thinking it's odd to ask what we're "supposed to feel." I think we're going to feel what we feel, and each of us will feel things differently, and it's all OK. We'll feel it, laugh, cry, sigh, get through it, and get back on with our lives.
It sounds like you got through the weekend with grace, and I'm happy for you. Good for you for wishing them happiness, deserved or not! I believe that will bring good things your way, and give you a lighter heart. Well done.

The ex married the ow just six months after our divorce. My three boys were all 'invited' and did attend, although the older two told me that the younger one, 18 at the time, cried during the ceremony and had to leave for awhile to compose himself. Poor kid.

So it was HIS second marriage and her...THIRD!!! Geez. You'd think they'd have had the sense to go off and get married at city hall or something. To put the kids through watching them "commit" to each other so early after their parents' marriage ended......what a couple of selfish beings.

Like KRK said, they deserve each other. I could care less if they make it, don't make it. The boys tell me the odd snippet of news but I really don't care. The ex and his new mrs. broke up two families and caused a heck of a lot of grief. I wonder if it was worth it for them, but I'll never really know...unless the DO break up eventually lol!

BTW, Just because they stay together, got married....it doesn't mean that there is some stupendously passionate and committed love bond between them! Two people messed up and had an affair and ultimately got married, in my mind, to justify all the mess they made. It's a marriage of convenience that grew out of deceit and pain. Not much to celebrate!

iammine.... my oldest was 16 when everything started. When his gf found pics of his dad and mistress on FB, he was devastated. We had many long conversations.... eventually he asked his father, "You left me, you left mom, you left my brother, was she worth it?" to which his father replied, "yes"..... If I could have gotten my hands on that man at that moment..... I would be writing this from a jail cell!!!
I believe that everyone deserves to be content (which I think comes from inside)... I think happy comes from outside. I honestly do wish this luck and happiness.... partly selfish on my part... I am hoping that now that they are married, he will calm down and she will stop seeing me as a threat!
Thanks for all the great words and advice!!!