I've been where you are. In the past I was morbidly obese. Also not typical. I did not have terrible eating habits at all. Was put on thyroid meds which slowly reduced my weight, but I can't eat like other people. Am now 183 lbs. and a size 16 Not quite where I want to be, but not a cow either. Don't put yourself down. There are enough people in this society who will do that to you! Believe me, some men will accept an obese woman. I was living proof of that! It sucks, but you can overcome it.

Would you want to be with someone like this anyway? I got to 268lbs and size 26. Couldn't believe my husband still found me attractive but he did...he said 'it's still you'. I did a low carb diet, without sugar or dairy. Atkins would be just fine. I lost 9 stone in a year. You will obviously go down in boob size...if you make sure you wear good fitting bras then they can strink naturally. Also 1-3lbs a week weight loss and a high elastane diet allows the skin to shrink and reshape without sagging and becoming loose. Also if you exercise to lose weight this can happen with the skin. I haven't exerecised at all and so far no baggy skin. Also might be worth working on your self esteem.

ooops that should be 9 stone in 18 months not a year.

*shrink not strink - sorry I've just got up!

Try changing your focus toward what makes you feel complete and happy, and it does all begin with you. If you're not happy with how you're living your life, you can change it. You could start by creating some goals for what you want for yourself. At one point in my life, I picked up a book at the library "The Art of Appreciative Living" and at other times, I've always gone back to the library or to youtube, gone back to school, or hired a personal trainer for a reasonable cost. Try to remember, your story is only just beginning and wherever it goes can be based upon your dreams, which lead to creative specific goals on how you want to achieve what you want in this life.

I've been on WeightWatchers, tried Mark Hyman, MD's diet for UltraSimple weightloss, followed Dr. Mercola, and tweaked my diet over the years. Unfortunately, in my prime, I was diagnosed with MS, so now my diet has changed even more. As of June 2nd, I'm following John McDougall, MD. Guess I'm saying, there's no "quick" answer, no perfect turn of things.... we learn as we go, and speak with friends like we do here, getting good feedback and ideas all the time. Hang in there, and if you like, join us on the weekly weigh in for some support too. ☺♥

Hi 35 and you are so young. I am 67, so twice your age. You received some good advice from the other folks. I have been all over the board with my weight. From 100 lbs to almost 200. Now I am in the middle. Some of us take a lifetime to find what works for us. Do not put yourself down. Your weight does not define who you are. When the right fella comes around you will know it. Just work on small changes and try to be consistent with that. I like our weekly weigh in as a way to keep track of how it is going. Hugs.....

At 35 I got fed up and went to a liquid diet program. I lost 70 lbs and you know what happened? Every single scum of the earth was in my face constantly and no one good. I suspect that maybe good guys just presumed I was taken or married or maybe I have BO. But don't think weight will make that much difference. That guy was a super jerk.

Don't put yourself down.Remember we are all beautiful in our own way>