Hi dsf95:

Our society is something now days. There is no human perfect, without flaws, or no one walks on water. But, as a whole, there will always be some folks out there, who will look down on others.

We cannot change these people, but only change ourselves in the way we react to their emotional abuse. I am not sure what the response should be, ignore them, or say something smart as a come back remark.

We are all beautiful people. I am not a confrontation person, so I would just tell myself, thank goodness I am not ignorant like they are.

I believe what goes around comes around, so tomarrow maybe their day.

I hope I made you feel a little better.

you are beautiful.
believe it

It's true though. Society does have a weight bias and it's not always obvious unless you experience both sides. I was also treated much differently and it really hurt. But I would never have understood it had I not gone through it myself. Carry that confidence in yourself because you are doing great. Remember that those people come from a place of misery. Secure people have no need to judge others in such a way.

I hear you! As a teenager I was horribly hurt when people would reject me due to weight. I would starve myself thinner and then they would accept me. I thought, doesn't ANYBODY care what's on the inside?

Sadly, it doesn't change much. I'm a senior now, and still dealing with the rejection and discrimination. People think they can do or say anything to a heavy person! I've come close to DECKING some of these bitches!!! Excuse my French, but most of the time the discrimination comes from females.

God bless you.

I am 16/18 and I know others are much bigger than me but I have issues finding decent clothes and cant imagine being bigger! I know I am big but to have such issues getting clothes frustrates me....my goal size would be a 9/10 and in my small days I was 6-8 but that was much younger days and before 3 kids...I just want to feel healthy for me. I dont feel anyone has ever called me fat or even made me feel bad about what I am but we see skinny all around....Its more me though why I feel so bad.

Yeah, I used to love to shop at JC Penneys because I liked their plus sized clothes, but since they went through their management change, they have really abandoned their plus size department. Considering the average American woman wears a size 14, that means half the women wear a 14 or larger. Why is our money less green? Yes, we can shop at Lane Bryant and Avenue, but I a lot of their clothes unattractive too or made out of cheap fabrics.

I know what you mean. I can't even infront of certain people because they look at me like "do you really need that?" even if it's a turkey sandwich and they're snarfing down a cheeseburger!

All I can say is that we have to be the change. People are always going to find something about you to judge or talk about if they're looking for it. I gained all this weight from being in a deep depression for years and now I realize I don't want to live my life worrying about what other people think. If someone can't look past your weight to the person you are underneath it, then believe me, they're not worth even talking to, because obviously they're very shallow.
And livingwater, just fyi, those shallow, mean, stupid girls who get entertainment from hurting other girls, they end up on drugs or with 4 kids they can't take care of cuz they're "pretty boy" HS bf runs out on them. Or they just end up unsuccessful, bitter, uneducated and angry sluts because they spent they're whole lives being garbage. I know, I see all the popular girls from my school around every once in awhile, it's hilarious!

As ignorant as some people can be, it's a shame that it gets to any of us on occasion. I'm a firm believer that beauty is as beauty does. The women who display the discrimminating behavior are what I call extremely ugly. Shame on them. They will end up learning a lesson at some point and I just hope they can live with themselves. I do believe what comes around goes around.