This time I wont try to give you good advice. I am so sorry you have this situation in your life. May I ask how old you are? Be brave about the appointment. You will not be the only person they have seen struggling with this issue. Welcome to Daily Strength. I have met some really nice people and found great support when I have needed help. maybe you have turned a corner??!! xoxox

Hi. I turned 18 a few months ago. Thank you for the support. I have my appointment in a few hours and I feel slightly better but still worried for when I get there. I've been going to these appointments because I have blackouts now and again and they need to find the cause. So after this appointment I may be going for a brain scan they said. The reason I'm dreading is because they weigh you before you go in and then that seems to be all they see. I go in with what could be a problem and they tell me if I lose weight it'll go away. The only reason they'll send me for the scan is because they have to, but the way they speak to me is demeaning. Like I'm nothing because I'm bigger than them. I hope in DailyStrength I will have the support to help me overcome this feeling and maybe gain the confidence to lose the weight. Thank you for the reply by the way because it makes me happy knowing someone will listen :)

So sorry you're feeling this way, Shawnah. I too feel that finding DS is a good thing. We all need to communicate with people who can lend an ear and some understanding. I hope you don't feel intimidated by those in the "white coats." They are there to be of service to you. Resources, if you will. Sometimes venting can be so helpful.♥ I hope you ask lots of questions at your appointment, and remember, there are always second opinions. Let us know how it goes. ☺

Hey there I guess I can relate to what you feeling I struggled with my weight and still focus struggle with my weight. I have lost most of my weight but i am slowly beginning to pack on the pounds. Just lyk you my family all seem to be all at a healthy weight and don't struggle with weight issues. But I know one thing for sure is we can't give up and I sure as ain't giving up either so you shouldn't too. Just have faith because that's what we can hold onto. We are strong and it's time we believe it. Thinking about numbers and making yourself feel dissapppinted and sad doesn't really give you any benefit instead focus on the things that make you happy and think of doing what you think is right for you and only you.

These people have no right to demean you...it's abusive. I didn't find out I was 268lbs until I went to the hospital about something else. People are soo judgemental, and it doesn't help. people put on weight for many reasons. I hope your scan was ok. Let us know how it went.

Hi. Thank you all so much for the support your words have. Sadly though I was ignored be it my age or what. I waited for an hour and half before I got called and then I went in for have my blood pressure taken and what not. Thankfully for some unknown reason they didn't take my weight which I found funny because they had every other time. But when I got in to the consultant (this is the first time I ever went in on my own as I only turned 18) and he spoke for 5 mins told me to wait while he left for 20 mins ad came back spoke to me for 5 more mins to tell me they could find nothing wrong with me heart wise. I was shocked by the way I was spoken to. He never listened to what I had to say and when I tried to explain anything he ignored me. Doctors have no manners and I hate it. But again thank you. i guess the main thing is the appt went well. I hope maybe after xmas I will be able to get myself together and maybe lose some weight and be healthy. Hopefully making any further visits less daunting.

I've had doctors be like this too...they often have zero people skills. Try not to take it personally. Have a lovely Xmas!

I understand what you are feeling . At 16 I weighed 250lbs. I felt like everyone was against me. Doctors did not listen to me, the family loved me, but could not get why I could not eat just a tiny piece of cake or none. I was put on a diet at age 10, 800 calories. I lost weight and for about three years was "normal" Then I started eating so much, I could not seem to stop myself and my entire life felt like it was going down the drain. I did not want to leave the house I was ashamed of how I looked. Finally I decided I did not need anyone to understand me. I needed to find a plan for myself that would help me lead a normal happy life. I went to Weight Watchers and lost about 80lbs. I stopped going and regained about 40, then back again, lost it again. All through my life I have wondered why me. Why am I like this about food. It feels like an addiction to me. So, I treat it like an addiction. I put a lot of effort every day into what I will eat. I know what triggers my binge eating and avoid those foods always. There is a lot more, but the bottom line dear is YOU need to do something right now to change your life. Weight is so connected with happiness. You sound unhappy to me, so you must change things. We put effort into all things in life. Our schooling, jobs, relationships, etc. and yet we don't put that same effort into our own happiness. Surely you know if you are eating more than you should and can cut down. It may feel like deprivation, but the real deprivation is in not leading a full happy life. We need to grow up and realize we just cannot have it all. If we think we can eat all kinds of goodies and be healthy and happy we need to rethink that.
You want support and you can find that here. People want you to succeed. I sure do. I still , after ten years of maintaining a 105lb loss have problems. I will never give up fighting to stay healthy as possible and that makes me happy. If I give in and just say I cannot do this, I will feel depressed as heck. So I have some illness that comes with old age and stops me from exercising like I used to. I went on a pity party for awhile eating the wrong foods. NOW I AM BACK. I beg you to join me and do something for yourself. You do not need food to feel good. That lasts a few seconds and is not worth it. You have your whole life ahead of you and you may be like me and battle overweight for many years, but if this is all we have to carry, we are lucky compared to others with horrible illnesses. I am 72 now and I will NEVER GIVE UP. Bless you. You can do this. Just start with one small step. Perhaps if you drink soda , give that up. Continue from there. Big Hug.