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When it rains it pours

Froggie83
Froggie83

And I have been told that its all my fault. 


I am having a bunch of really bad luck. From the car heater quitting leaving me with no heat or defrost or anything. To our other vehicle leaving us on the side of the road waiting for a tow truck (alternator took a dump so it was dead. )


Tack onto that all the issues I was having before the cars decided to jump in (see my last post about no longer doing ok) and I am back to wishing I wasn't here.


Today I was informed that I deserve all my bad karma. That I am a horrible person and that all this is my own fault. that I am fat and because of that my kids are going to have diabetes before they hit their 20's.. (Mind you I am only 30 pounds over my recommended weight and not totally obese)


The kids are fighting and its because I taught them to be that way, the boy child tells the girl child to leave because she is worthless, the man of the house turns to me and says see this is what you created. You taught them to be like this. 


Mind you the man of the house has told me that very same poop. That I needed to leave because I was worthless. While he was on his little rant about how bad I am he even threw a little salt on the wound of the lies that occurred at work. He is always saying I do nothing and never have done anything around the house.. Says I don't know how to shop because we have a variety of French fry styles.. (Crinkle cut fast food and tater tots. But I guess we only need one kind?) Heaven forbid we run out of something food related.. I get told I am no longer allowed to do the grocery shopping because I am incompetent. Since when was buying the food for every meal for a week (or longer) a privilage?!? I thought it was a chore.. 


Someday it will all end, either with his death or mine, I just wish that someday was today. It would be perfect if he disappeared forever.


I just don't get it, how can a guy be so accusing and mean without even considering the well-being of the other people?? Especially the people he claims to love, the people he helped create. (Those kids are half his half mine.. )


Nikki2022
Nikki2022
It's not you're fault and I am so sorry you've been made to feel that way. I don't understand depression but I've been there and I know how much it hurts when you feel like you're alone in it. You're not alone. You need to take some time to yourself to gain perspective and clarity. You will never be able to reverse those thoughts until you do. If you ever want to talk or rant and have someone just listen and vice versa I'll be your sounding board.
Take care darling and never stop shining!
Nikki
rianbooyer
rianbooyer
Im so sorry this is happening Froggie. Know your friends are here tp support you through this. Please dont give up. You are worth the fight.
Andromeda8
Andromeda8
It's not your fault Froggie. It is your bad karma to marry that lazy person. It is his fault that he is not contributing to the raising of your child, and children copy their parents so they emulate their father. Tell him to do the grocery shopping and cook for the kids as he seem to know all about nutrition and healthy living. Tell him that you will split half of the housework with him because in reality, you are unwell. It's one thing looking after your kids, but if you don't look after yourself, your whole family will fall apart if you fall ill. Love yourself, and take care of your own needs. You have to live for your kids remember, so don't give up.
GreenEyes727
GreenEyes727
What a jerk! Of course he's turning it around on you. At least you aren't falling for it. Give yourself some kudos for that.
billwfriend
billwfriend
sorry froggie....hugs and hope you feel better soon....
blackcrow
blackcrow
sorry that you are going through this. its not yout fault I am sure. you do the best you can. that will help you feel better about you. learning to shop means taking into consideration of the price and quality. some stores have the same things only cheaper, the store name brand is sometimes better then the commercial brand. you can learn it one day at a time.
blackcrow
blackcrow
sorry that you are going through this. its not yout fault I am sure. you do the best you can. that will help you feel better about you. learning to shop means taking into consideration of the price and quality. some stores have the same things only cheaper, the store name brand is sometimes better then the commercial brand. you can learn it one day at a time.
Froggie83
Froggie83
His verbal vomit continues. At some point I won't be able to ignore him and I will end up snapping on him.
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