I have definitely been told I'm self centered, that I'm a know it all, that I'm controlling. And honestly i was. I had to realize that even though i didn't see it, didn't make it untrue. But also that i didn't intentionally be that way to people. I've always been the caregiver and the responsible one that everybody relied on. So i naturally became a maternal person. I started to Mother people instead of just being. I also always felt as though nobody loved me , so i had to prove that i was good enough, so i tended to try and show off me in hopes people would see in good enough. Or i always had an answer for something even if nobody asked. These are just things about myself that i realized. They all stemmed from my low self esteem and my adhd. What i would recommend is to look inside and find what might be triggering some of the ways you react to ppl. Then sit down and have a talk without getting defensive. Even if you have to walk away for a minute to not get to upset. Listen and try and fix it . And remember that we are all imperfect humans and nobody has thier stuff together

I think I read this at 3 a.m. and couldn't find words. In my experience, guys who are selfish will try to turn it around on you. I gave my all to these guys and they came back with "it's all about you" and "I tried but you didnt". They weren't going to pull the wool over my eyes.

If he is your ex, why are you even still talking to him and why do you care what he thinks anymore?

It's like his opinion still matters to you. And it shouldn't.

These kind of guys are exes for a reason. You guys broke up for a reason.

Depression can be a clinical condition that you have no control over. For him to say that to you was ignorant and mean. Pay no attention to him. Don't even talk to him for awhile. He has no concept what you are dealing with. Just ignore his calls/texts for awhile and work on yourself. Do you think you need to speak with a therapist or go on medication? Or do you think this is hopefully just a short phase you are going through?

We're here for you.... sending support and hugs your way!

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If I am reading this correctly this guy you are talking about is your ex-boyfriend AND a friend?? When I am going through a bout of depression it's painful and sometimes I do need to focus on myself.
However, this doesn't make you a self-centered person. If he is really important as a friend I would explain to him that you do not feel that you are self centered and that depression is an illness like any other.
You say that he knows that he is one of two friends that you can count on during these times. I have found that, at times when I am experiencing a clinician depression that people do not understand. Sometimes it's a one time thing, when the other person was having a bad day. But I've noticed that some people, who have are not familiar with depression,can seem cold and uncaring. Depending on who the person is I either try to educate and advocate of avoid. Maybe you need a mental health break from him???Hoping that you feel better and keep posting

Thanks to all of you for responding. You definitely gave me food for thought. My mood has lifted a bit since I posted, and I am seeing things more clearly now.