Sorry. I always have issues in a work environment. Normally my release of personal information brings it on. Ill say personal stuff, and try to be their friend. Then, they may have an issue with what I said, and decide to gang up on me.

People at work are not there to be your friends...meh. Normally its my mouth that gets me in trouble. Hang in there.

Thanks, Gaff....There is a lot of truth in your words. Work people are not there to be your friend. I should remind myself of that daily.

I HATE that line "bringing it on yourself".

Over the years I've learned to keep my work and private lives strictly seperate, so I no longer hear such stuff directed at me. But...I've heard it directed at others, and it's just awful.

Hard truth, is that such people have learned how to play the game, and to be hurtful in a socially acceptable way. Only real defence (that I know of) is to ignore them. And perhaps, quietly, look for another job.

There are a lot of books talks about how to deal with nasty people at work. They writen by psychologist and experts. There are a few differet types of nasty people. They teach you how to defense youself. There are a lot of books about verbal judo.The answer is: You can try to say something back. It makes it harder for them hurt you. But you will still feel bad.
So think of it as a fun game. You maybe happyer.