lets hope the school intervenes and is able to get her some help...they should....anyway...hugs sorry...

School counselors are what is called "mandatory reporters". Under some very broad circumstances, they must report things like this to the police. Hopefully they find that the information you gave them falls into one of those categories and they take immediate action.

Please let us know what happened, good bad or what ever.

So let's get this straight. Dad's spat the dummy and put daughter into lockdown due to some boy who he is keeping off his daughter till she finishes high school so she doesn't become a statistic.

She's had one day of this and she's gone all romeo and juliet.

I would show up at her house and give her back the note. Tell her you're not going to be her accomplice, you're not going to play this game with her. She's had one whack and her stuff confiscated, any kid has had that happen fifty times without starting in on the suicide notes. How ridiculous. She's scared of what? She's going to kill herself to avoid what? A hiding?

This is rot. It's a strategic move on her part. She's playing politics. She's playing chess with Daddy.

Just understand: she expected you to read it.

I'd leave them to their psychodramas if I were you.

If he did hit her, it is a matter for the police. You didn't give her age, But I assume she is a teen. Beating children is domestic violence and is a CRIME. Tell the cops and leave them to work it out.The days when men can beat their kids are over.

beating children is violence. Giving them a whack is not, in America, as of yet.

Dad has another alternative of course. he can call the cops on her boyfriend and get the lad done for statutory rape. Put the boy away, solve his problem. Is Dad doing that? No. Do we want him to? No.

So sometimes we just bite the bullet. Dad is in no mind to be raising his own grandchildren just now. If she wants to shag boyfriend she can always leave home. But while she's under dad's roof she has to obey his basic rules.

He's clearly not a child beater or she wouldn't be going hysterical on one little slap. She'd be used to getting a hiding. This is a pretty clear example to me of too little, too late, with a daughter who is definitely just going to suck down into her own point of view no matter what he does. I actually think dad's doomed. Daughter's too far gone.

Can you give us an update on your friend? We're all hoping she's okay.

Okay I posted about my friend being abused by her dad a few days ago. A lot of you left helpful comments and I have talked to the counselor and they're helping her. Some of left comments that upset me. She is not being hysterical. Her dad left bruises all over her. And it wasn't the first time this has happened. Her boyfriend wasn't what made her so upset. It was what her dad has been continuously doing to her for the past two or three years. She is verbally and physically abused in that house. I don't want my friend to hurt herself and I needed advice I didn't need people to say she's just a complaining teen. Trust me if it was just a slap in the face for being disrespectful I could understand that. It's what my dad used to do to me when I got out of line, but the bruises on her body are a totally different story.

It sounds like you did the right thing. If we err, we should always try to err on the side of love. You showed great care and concern like a good friend should. I hope your school is able to offer her the help she and her family needs.