Depression Support Group
Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.
I've been attending a group with a life coach for years. I love it and it really helps me. It's virtual now.
There is a man there, who, to be honest, is very attractive. If I met him elsewhere I would date him. He's asked me out a few times in the chat, (it's virtual) but I didn't respond. But, he is in the group/therapy setting. My first instinct is no.
The reason being is that obviously I'm not going to process relationship issues in the same group in which I am dating with that person there. What if I had to process about him? That won't work. If it doesn't work, I lose the group. That would be quite a loss.
Also, it's virtual. I've never met him in person. It sure would be awkward to meet him and find out he looks/seems different than on zoom. He came to the group saying he's there because his wife cheated on him. They are not divorced yet, and I've been through that before too. That was a disaster-dating someone going through a divorce.
My worst fear is that he has some really deep issues that would come out-like he is a narcissist, addict, etc. I know there are people who are predators who hang out at 12 step and such to find weak, codependent women. They put on a friendly, concerned demeanor just to reel you in. I think they go to groups and Coda to find people to victimize. This happened to me before at a CoDa group. I befriended a man who I trusted (also an older man) and it turned into a nightmare. I rented a room from him and he turned controlling and unreasonable and demanded a relationship. He said if I didn't like it my stuff would be on the porch for me to pick up.
What a mess.
I don't want to go through this again. I had to leave the meetings for several years because he was on my heels and I did phone meetings. Real disaster. I'm feeling a "no" in this situation.
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they may be a completely nice person but if something happens and the relationship goes sour then it will cause major group conflict. I don't know what the group is about but he is there for a reason.
You are right as well there are predators that do hang out in those groups because they are looking for someone who is easier pickings if they pluck the right emotional strings.
I would say avoid it.
I also have been checking out these women-only support groups, which I really like, I may look even further into this.