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Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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nightfire 12/30/2017

so my wife(separated) and i texted just recently and long story short i told her i found out why for years id have inappropiate chats with women online and pictures and such, shed always ask me why did i do it, and id answer i dont know, the problem i feel is my (ED) or whatever you might call this, id always try to find ways to stimulate things, i always felt less than a man, even with my wife, we tried things to help, but i never link the things as being part of the same problem..... and as i opened up to my wife more than ever, about this, she said im using it as another fucking excuse even though i said it doesnt excuse anything i did, but i now see what my problem is and i need therapy for it.

i feel abandoned by her response

Ghostdancer 12/30/2017

You were going to let her be and allow some more time to pass and get started on therapy for yourself. Afterwards besides feeling abandoned by her response how do you feel about this contact, was it beneficial to either of you?

Seamus 12/30/2017

I guess she could have put it better.
I think you both need time. Time for her to heal and hopefully forgive. And time for you to seek a therapist and see what the real problem is.

nightfire 12/30/2017

she texted and so we ended up chatting.

yes it was just harmful and none of it would of comeout if she hadnt said she considers the marriage over the day she left and it all spiruled from there, not only do i need to not text her, but i guess i shouldnt reply to hers ffor a while

WanderingVet 12/30/2017

I don't get keeping a relationship with an EX. After all, .. they are an EX.

nightfire 12/30/2017

shes my wife, not an ex

nightfire 12/30/2017

you are completely misreading what i meant, i never said i did it for her, i said its a problem because of my ED i never once said i did it for her, where the crap do you get off assuming i said and mean that

nightfire 12/30/2017

thank you so much simpson, im trying not to let a few bad apples riun things for me or my thoughts of this site, i came here for support and understanding while i try to figure all this mess out, even a couple of years ago i would never of reached out to a site like this or anyone, i really do thank the supporters

ThatOne 12/30/2017

Wow I'm shocked by bridgie101 too. So many assumptions. I've never been married but what I think is that once the trust is broken there's no guarantee that the two of you will get over this or through this together. Sometimes people make the effort even though the trust is broken and sometimes they don't. It's understandable though when people don't. Also it's understandable when they do.
I hope things work out the best way possible for you.

nightfire 12/30/2017

vast majority seem to be understanding and supportive that i can see

Seamus 12/30/2017

Yeah, that was a bit much from bridgie.

Sometimes it helps to have someone push us or wake us up. That was more like a slap in the face.
You do have the option to ignore her/him also. Which I'm going to do myself.

nightfire 12/30/2017

im going to ignore them, whats hurtful is they were on my friends list, im sure you can guess they arent now

enfieldguy 12/30/2017

She’s like that to everyone not just you. That’s why she’s been on ignore for me for years.

nightfire 12/30/2017

i was thinking its me, well i guess that makes me feel a bit better

johnnyboy1960 12/31/2017

Same here she blasted me too. Hope things work out for you. I was thinking that maybe your giving your wife to much information right now...just a thought being she is not really in your corner right now

nightfire 12/31/2017

you might be right johny and for the two posters before johny, youve been ignored so stop posting in all threads

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