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Problems on top of more problems

gossipgirlxoxo
gossipgirlxoxo

My life was going good. I was happy. Yesterday that all changed. My best friend who is dating my other best friend came over and we were watching TV. The way he was acting was making me uncomfortable. He was laying on me and was hugging me and was touching my hands. Later that night, my sister walks into my room and asks me of I like him more than a friend. I told her he is like a big brother to me. His girlfriend early this morning texts me to see if I'm up (which I was) and asked to talk and I got scared. She siad they got in a huge fight and she was so upset. Now, I'm upset because I'm the reason why her and her boyfriend are fighting. Seeing my best friend in pain is the worst thing right now and I don't know how to stop it. I can't stop it. I'm watching both of my best friedns fall apart and I don't know what to do. I couldn't sleep because I had this on my mind, I didn't eat all day because I couldn't. I'm so tired and hungry but I feel like I'm going to vomit and I just want it to be over.

imiru
imiru
The best thing you can do is tell the truth to her. Let her know you were not comfortable with his behavior. Of course she'll ask why you didn't just push him off or tell her sooner but I'm sure its because you were just shocked at what was going on and it didn't fully register. Also, this is not your fault at all, you didn't force him to get really friendly with you and more importantly you didn't sleep with the guy. But at the same time if this girl really is your best friend then you gotta tell her what happened. Otherwise it will haunt you and just keep getting worse.
b_happy
b_happy
If you weren't trying anything on the guy then it's far far far from your fault. He seems to have feelings for both of you. I would just lay down the rules with him. That he needs to either focus on his girlfriend or end that relationship so he's not leading her on. I would also explain to him the boundaries of your friendship. That you are only friends and you care for him as a brother but you want nothing beyond that. Don't feel this is all your fault. It is just mixed hearts and difficult feelings. If you can't get through to the boyfriend and things persist I would try sitting down with your best friend and addressing the situation to her. Even if someone gets angry in the situation you will have done what you could to correct the issue. I really hope this all smooths over soon. It will definitely get better in time, though. :)
billwfriend
billwfriend
sorry have a sandwich....
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