Depression Support Group
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I think I posted about this a long time ago, and it may be the last time that I do.
I have been involved with a support group for quite a long time, and I think that it is time for it to come to an end. I have completely had it.
About six months ago, there was a new woman at one of the groups who just exploded and started screaming the F word at us. I don't know what her problem was. She obviously needed a lot of help. A coach was running the group. She happened to be sitting next to me and it really scared me. I did the wrong thing by getting freaked out and saying B****. I ran out the door and to the car. My heart was racing.
She followed me to my car. She tried to apologize but I was just so upset. My guard was down because I was trying to deal with my issues. It escalated and I let loose, telling her never to curse or shout at me again and to get away from my car.
My issue is that throughout my life people lay into me, get abusive, and I just stand there and do nothing. This is why I was getting help. This reaction was not helpful either.
The facilitator offered to work with the both of us, and I was willing, after all, we both have issues and are there to learn to get along better. She refused and quit. Fine. Frankly everyone else was relieved when she was gone.
I know I didn't handle it well. The facilitator told me not to worry, to let it go.
Fast forward to this weekend. She is in another of the groups with a different facilitator. I frankly did not even remember her. All the sudden she goes off again and starts talking about me in front of everyone. Now I remember. I feel my heart racing and exploding. I was shaking and I said, You are talking about me in front of me and it's really inappropriate. She is escalating more and more, just being really rude, and the facilitator tells me to stay, to work it out. It gets worse, she tries to work with the woman who goes absolutely crazy and starts screaming about her husband whom she is so mad at. It was terrible. I was sobbing and shaking a total mess.
I was warned not to go there. I have decided to quit. In all my years of counseling and twelve step and everything else (different from this group) I Have never encountered such I think. This is over now.
I just ended a severely abusive relationship that my new coach told me to end, and I am not going to repeat it with other random, cray cray people.
If she would have talked to me on the side, I would have admitted my part in it, but going off on me in front of everyone was the biggest mistake ever. Just her effectively doing it again solidified the term with which I had labeled her in my mind. She couldn't have been that sorry if she was willing to do this.
I have been involved with a support group for quite a long time, and I think that it is time for it to come to an end. I have completely had it.
About six months ago, there was a new woman at one of the groups who just exploded and started screaming the F word at us. I don't know what her problem was. She obviously needed a lot of help. A coach was running the group. She happened to be sitting next to me and it really scared me. I did the wrong thing by getting freaked out and saying B****. I ran out the door and to the car. My heart was racing.
She followed me to my car. She tried to apologize but I was just so upset. My guard was down because I was trying to deal with my issues. It escalated and I let loose, telling her never to curse or shout at me again and to get away from my car.
My issue is that throughout my life people lay into me, get abusive, and I just stand there and do nothing. This is why I was getting help. This reaction was not helpful either.
The facilitator offered to work with the both of us, and I was willing, after all, we both have issues and are there to learn to get along better. She refused and quit. Fine. Frankly everyone else was relieved when she was gone.
I know I didn't handle it well. The facilitator told me not to worry, to let it go.
Fast forward to this weekend. She is in another of the groups with a different facilitator. I frankly did not even remember her. All the sudden she goes off again and starts talking about me in front of everyone. Now I remember. I feel my heart racing and exploding. I was shaking and I said, You are talking about me in front of me and it's really inappropriate. She is escalating more and more, just being really rude, and the facilitator tells me to stay, to work it out. It gets worse, she tries to work with the woman who goes absolutely crazy and starts screaming about her husband whom she is so mad at. It was terrible. I was sobbing and shaking a total mess.
I was warned not to go there. I have decided to quit. In all my years of counseling and twelve step and everything else (different from this group) I Have never encountered such I think. This is over now.
I just ended a severely abusive relationship that my new coach told me to end, and I am not going to repeat it with other random, cray cray people.
If she would have talked to me on the side, I would have admitted my part in it, but going off on me in front of everyone was the biggest mistake ever. Just her effectively doing it again solidified the term with which I had labeled her in my mind. She couldn't have been that sorry if she was willing to do this.
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I invited Bill to have dinner with me last Sunday. He wasn't willing to drive 7 hours to mid Michigan and teased me with his beautiful ribs!!! So, of course I ate alone and had cedar salmon
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check out that smoke ring. It tasted really good. I smothered it with Maulls BBQ sauce which is Local to St. Louis and one of the best I ever had.....
your statement of fact is a question in my mind
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But I don't know the entire situation. What does the facilitator think? How did he/she handle it? How are they handling it?
I think you need to be guided by the professionals involved. But don't automatically walk out on it. These tests and challenges are there in front of us to make us stronger. They are there for us to learn from. and that learning can be taken into the rest of our lives.
I was in a closed door meeting the other day where a woman saw fit to blame me for everything that went wrong on a certain topic.
I just sat there and waited. Didn't even bother responding. Bloody oath what a giant twit. We weren't even there to discuss that topic.
It's her mental illness. She had to get that off her chest. Sometimes you've just got to let people be what they are and ignore them till they stop. And then carry on like they never did the thing. Leave them with it. Leave them feeling like they failed to have the impact they thought they were going to have.
Leave them uncomfortable.
Sane, healthy and humble people don't do what this woman did. She must have a lot of issues. For entertain she used you as target practice and in sorry you went through that.
Group therapy is for all kinds. If possible, can you find another local one where she won't be? I have overall found them helpful.