I don't know why we get those ups and downs. I don't know how old you are or whats going on in your life but hang in there. Someone once told me to write down before going to bed, one good thing that happened to make you feel a little better or thankful. It could be something silly, like a tv show that makes you laugh or even cry, eating a favorite treat, watching birds or squirrels run around, a warm sunny day. Or just someone that is nice to you at work or school. you'll be surprised how many things you'll find. that actually can make you smile. Write it down in a notebook, then reread it. each day. This website is a blessing, having someone to reach out too. Hang in there. You make your own life. You chose your reaction to what happens each day. We can dwell on things that don't go right or we can chose to find the little things that make us happy.

For some of us, this INDEED IS life...ups and downs, and sometimes the downs are quite vicious. I seem to be hard-wired to focus on the negative in my life, to focus on what I don't have, instead of what I do have. I am working on this. I think honeypeas has it exactly right. I write a gratitude list every day, thanks to a woman in my AA group who has set this up for a bunch of us. I have done this for a few months now, and it is starting to have a positive effect. I think Thoreau in the 1800's noted that life's joys come in MOMENTS, not the way life is portrayed in the stupid television shows and ads that make people like me think that the rest of the world is full of happy people.

There is nothing wrong with feeling this way but you got to talk to people (counselor) and you got to read some books on cBt.

ul get there with a little help from ur friends - virtual/real & family. dont give up. take it from a lifetime depression award winner. i just wanted to send u a hug & good wishes from me & tiny paws from my dog cos - he lifts me up every day. ul be in my prayers.

I’m new to the group. I have suffered with anxiety since I am 4. I’m now in my 50s and on medication. It helped a lot but I have never been rid of this awful feelings that come over me. I feel I have missed out on so much of my life. My one friend just passed away 2 days ago from cancer. She was my age. I feel what’s keeping it from happing to me? Why have a life we just die. That’s an awful way to think and I hate myself for it but I can’t help it. I just decided to go on this group chat... thought it might help to hear from others
Thanks

I totally can relate to the good days and bad days. I have struggled for over 20 years with depression. I have actually had several years with no bouts. Recently I have struggled again. I know it has a lot to do with my thoughts and taking every thought captive. Giving all my thoughts and feelings to God and letting go and just finding ways to enjoy life. One thing I have been taught is to put any false and negative thoughts on a cloud bubble and let it float away. The visual really helps me, I just have to not allow it to float back. I also do positive self-talk through Emotional Freedom Tapping. This method helps incorporate positive self-talk with acupressure points. Here is a link to show you the points. . https://bit.ly/2m1cegn
Find something encouraging to say to yourself like I feel happy, I am self-assured, I am special, I have value - then tap on the points. You do this on both sides of the body. You will be amazed at how self-empowered you feel after this exercise. Doing these in replacement to those unhealthy thoughts. Also, are you on medication. I know the chemical imbalance is what causes depression for me it helps me become more stable, but I still have to work with a counselor on what is the underlying cause to my depression. For me I know it is I am too hard on myself and have too high of expectations every day. I will be praying for you. God is your strength. You can feel good! God bless! Hugs!

Sometimes feeling like no one understands can be painful. It will pass. Don't give up e here understand. Medatation is another option in addition to what the others said. Praying you will hang in there for a better day.

I get that I am going through that right now. I haven't had a " good day " since my dad died 2 weeks ago.

I can't believe he is gone. What keeps me going is my mother needs me.

Thank you all for your responses!!! Its good to know that I'm not alone in this! I actually had a good day today! Praying that tomorrow will be good also. Hugs to you all