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My first Christmas poor.

virginiadale
virginiadale
I have always been successful whether it be music,plumbing or what ever.This year I have lost a lot of my physical drive and have not been able to do much without becoming sick.There are things that I won't go into that have really put me in a jeopardy of losing my life.I've spent all my money and lost all my work trying to survive.Now it's Christmas,my favorite time of year,because I can give back generously.this year I have no Christmas spirit and haven't even tried to do anything related to this great time of year.My question is,how do poor people celebrate Christmas?This is my first year in 45 years that I have nothing and I'm in the process of being thrown out of my home by the 1st.I need some way of making the best of this,but I feel as if I've been punch in the stomach and the depression is overwhelming.Please help me,I'm worn out.Dale
serenityspeaks
serenityspeaks
well not that I am rich now but in my single days I really just not celebrate it. I wasnt with anyone and did not have money.....often it was another day. Now I have kids so I just do as much as I can for them. I never worry about stuff for me just them. Sorry for your rough time...losing a home is so stressful been there too:(
deleted_user
deleted_user
My family has had hard times over the last couple years and I know how difficult Christmas can be when there is a huge change in your quality of living. However, Christmas as a time of year is not about how much you give or how expensive it was. the spirit is to be with people who you love or people who need your love. Speaking as a kid who has lost alot, my favorite Christmas was the one without the fancy presents but my family came together in a way that I havent seen since.
deleted_user
deleted_user
If your whole life up until this point has been based on material things you are in for a good long extremely hard fall- I truly feel bad for you.

Maybe you should focus on helping those that have even less than you (keeping in mind that you are now among the ranks of the "poor people"). I bet you could find a soup kitchen, a homeless shelter, a church, a community center, a senior center in your area that has a holiday meal going on in which you could volunteer. It may help to put things into perspective for you.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm having a poor Christmas too!

We didn't even have money for a tree this year, so we decorated the ficus tree in my living room. Ha!

Just one more week and it'll be over.... thank goodness :)

Sorry you're dealing with so much at the moment. Just know you aren't alone...
deleted_user
deleted_user
Christmas time is stressful even without the added hardships. I am trying to focus on what is important and less on what material things I can or can not buy ... yesterday I was thrown into a panic attack over the money I did spend knowing full well I can not and should not be spending it .... So I have learned a tough lesson this year .... next year I am focusing on my loved ones and the fact we are all still here to enjoy each other ..... My prayers for you ... it seems everyone I know is having a tough time with losses of jobs and higher cost on everything ... Know that it is not what you BUY but it is BEING around those that you love
Summerwind81
Summerwind81
Do whatever you can do. As long as your family is with you (can be chosen family too :) that's all that matters. You can still celebrate the real meaning of the season, whatevr that is for you.

Is there a tradition you have? Do it the best you can, and focus iti more on togetherness and love instead of money.

I've had amazingly special Christmases drinking sparkling grape juice out of plastic champagne glasses and watching Lampoon's Christmas Vacation, if that makes you feel any better. You can make anything magic.

i do wanna say I'm very sorry about your house. I've never had one to be evicted from, of my own, but I've been booted from an apartment and it's a truly crappy feeling. Hugs toy ou.
Heidiclark
Heidiclark
I agree that you should just do what you can and then don't worry about it. Not having money at Christmas time does not make you any less of a person. You still have the same loving, generous heart and soul that you had back when you had money. Please try not to be so hard on yourself. These things happen sometimes. Blessings and peace.
heretic
heretic
It's my opinion that christmas has nothing to do with money.

I think wealth, generosity and the christmas spirit are all displayed not by material items, but by the time, love and care you give to others.

I've been poor all my life, and I've always celebrated by giving the thing I value most - my time.

I hope your new year brings you relief, stability and happiness.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Well it's more spending time with people. Instead of buying many people make cookies or something since most have access to food supplies but I'm sure there's no reason for giving if you can come for a visit. Hugs
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