Depression Support Group
Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.
Yesterday, a parent came over to drop something off for me, and they stayed and tried to chat while they put other stuff away that they brought. I wasn't expecting them to stay, and I was so irate and unsocial due to my depression, I basically started acting like a child. I was being cranky and slamming things, even though I was genuinely trying to get my behavior under control and be nice. They asked if I was mad, which would have been a great opportunity to explain my mental state, but instead I gave a crabby response that muddled the situation.
I'm ashamed for hurting them and I don't think this person is going to accept my apology easily.
I'm on mirtazapine and lexapro and I recently started taking a woman's multivitamin. I have recently started taking an effort to do some light exercising like yoga and power walking, since I don't think I'm in a physical state to do something like regular cardio. I'm trying to eat healthier. What can I do to get my depression under control?
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Ever since I stopped doing therapy because of insurance, I've been feeling that old tense and irritable sense of anxiety and stress. I hate that. I was making so many strides and changes during therapy, my therapist would acknowledge all of my progress and accomplishments, and I miss that reassurance. Today I thought about it, and I made those changes! She would always tell me that I chose to...
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Seeing a Therapist to talk about things can help....a lot. You can also learn coping skills to deal with the symptoms of your depression and how to "babystep" your way out when the depression starts to get the better of you.
And whether your parent will "accept the apology easy or not" still apologize, it's important to let people know that you don't mean to treat them badly, your having a hard time and it's hard to be around people. If you can't do it in person, send them a text.
Ask your psychiatrist for that referral for a therapist. They should be able to give you a phone number of a therapist. If they don't have anyone they know, ask them where you can find a therapist.
*have a healthy outlet to let your emotions out which can be listening to music, excercise, baking, meditating, etc
*having a person to talk to so you dont feel lonely and feel more understood
*set 3 goals everyday for yourslef, you can also just start with one so you dont burn yourslef out, and set 2 goals every week for yourself
*to prevent productivity crashes you can start the day off with everything important that you need to do
*also cut out things in your life or take a break or limit yourelf from things that drain your energy like social media, or if your going to use social media avoid reading comments, personally for me i find reading a bunch of other peoples opinions cause more confusion and overthinking for me and are more triggering than the video itself, because it doesnt allow me to form my own opinion on things, i hope this helps, also if you have a bad thought try putting writing on paper and coming up with ways to prove its not real because it mmsot likely isnt true, you can also try asking yourself, i this was a family member of mine, would i want them to reah out for help, or would i want them to skip meals, etc, good luck!
I agree with old Cper. Even though your parent may not fully understand
your behavior, I would try to explain (maybe simple words like, "I've been down and sometimes I get angry") and I would say that you are sorry if this feels
right to you.
You're going through a lot. I find that med changes can be tough on me and sometimes cause mood swings. You'll get through this. I mean this reply to be constructive and not instructive. You know best. Above all forgive yourself. We all have bad days.
Now, another thing to consider is: did you invite this parent over to your house or did they just show up? If they just showed up, I wonder if this angers you as it would anger me. Some parents try to keep actively parenting long after the adult child needs it and sometimes parents are really worried about the mental heath state that their kids are in right then. So consider if you feel your boundaries are being violated and then figure out a polite way to say "time for you to go" or "No, don't come over today".
A mature, loving, kind, good person will respond to a real apology as I have laid out. They will usually also take ownership of their part ("I am sorry I stayed so long") after we take ownership for our part and ask for forgiveness.
I have gotten half hearted apologies that also carry blame of me and take no responsibility for their actions. I am sorry I got mad but you did X to make me mad, for example. These are not real apologies, as they blame the other person as the cause of the problem. Sometimes I let it go, and once in a while I say this isn't a real apology because you are making it my fault and I walk away from the conflict angry inside.