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pam640
pam640

Hey all,  need hugs and prayers.  I thought I was going to be a grandmother, but my son's girlfriend terminated the pregnancy a few days ago.  I have been grieving ever since.  Actually, I think my son is taking it way better than I am, but he is confused because he so wanted the baby to be born.  He felt as if he had no say-so in the matter.  This is such a rough time, and as disappointments like this come, it's getting harder and harder to shake them off and keep moving.

Community LeaderThePepperMan
ThePepperMan
Wow, that is a hard one. Do you know why she terminated the pregnancy? That may help you cope. Does talking to your son help at all?

I wish I had solid things to say, but I'm way out of my league on this one.

Gentle hugs
Diane-M
Diane-M
Sending a hug
pam640
pam640
Hey, PepperMan, thanks so much. She just said that she wasnt ready. I know she is starting college in the Fall, so maybe that's it. I talked with my son the other day, but he's not talking much. But he did ask if I could ever feel pressured to do such a thing.

I know that mothers have rights in a situation like this. But what about the fathers, especially the ones who want to be in the life of a child. Don't they have any rights at all?? :(
pam640
pam640
Diane, thank-you so much for that hug, I really appreciate it.
Bit47
Bit47
That is such a painful thing for fathers and extended family to go through. Unfortunately, she's the incubator. Without her body, there is no way for the baby to live, and she chose not to allow it a home for 9 months. I know it's not that simple (I'm a mother to 4). It's too bad she didn't consult your son. It's heartbreaking. It wasn't just her child. I really am sorry for your pain, and your son's.
gregsbaby
gregsbaby
I always thought the fathers that do want to stick around had rights? Keep an eye on your son so he doesn't go into a deep depression. I lost a baby a long while ago and I felt my life was over. I know the feelings are fresh and raw right now but just remember later on down the road he can still make you a grandmother and you're going to be a good one! Sending big hugs
beatingtheblues2
beatingtheblues2
Hugs to you.
lighttheway
lighttheway
That really rough.I'm so sorry for the loss.I feel bad for the fathers of unborn babies who want their children and have no say.It doesnt seem right.Really sad..
SueB
SueB
Hugs to you Pam, I feel badly for you and your son, yes, try talking with your son, maybe he will open up and express his feelings regarding this, I hope you both can be strong for each other,
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