more hugs........

We learn to face the world as it really is and take responsibility for our actions. We deal with our feelings and share honestly about our experiences. We learn about ourselves and nurture growth in our physical and mental well being, we become responsible adults.

An important part of the serious business of recovery involves recognizing our need to have fun, to take a trip, attend a concert, make noise, race down the street, blow bubbles, go fishing or treat your-self to weekend break a small vacation these things can put perspective on having a little fun or lightheartedness. It reminds us that there is more to life than the problems at hand.

Taking ourselves to seriously wont solve a problem any quicker. In reality taking a break may help more than continuing to struggle. A good laugh may be the best tool available to help us let go, and we will come back to our task or issues refreshed. I will avoid taking myself too serious today.

There have been days when many of us felt that good times would never come again. After so many disappointments it seemed too painful to continue to hope. We shut our hearts and our minds to our dreams and stopped expecting to find happiness. We were not happy but at least we would not be let down or hurt anymore.

Caring, hoping, wanting is too risky but once we open our minds to recovery the risk might be worth taking. In time it neither may nor be enough to simply avoid disappointment;
We want more; we need rich, full, exciting lives with joy as well as sorrow.

Finding the willingness to believe joy can exist in our lives today can be very challenging, But until we make room in our hearts for good times, we may not recognize them when they come.

Nobody is happy all the time, but all of us are capable of feeling good. We deserve to allow ourselves to experience every bit of happiness or joy that come our way or that life has to offer. I will not let fear worries or disappointments prevent me from enjoying this moment this day. I have a great capacity and need for some happiness I deserve it.

I want to grow in my willingness to make room in my life for good times believing they will come, have faith in their arrival and patience in my anticipation.

mean i honestly love you with all of my heart and i agree with you 100%and i got your back. i also was friends with nanoe and it has really hurt me that she left and it was because of all the pain and agony on this site and the cruel people who come on here just to cause trouble and hurt hurting people. i trust you and i always have and i hate to see you like this but everything you have said is the truth.some people have a hard time accepting the truth and all these games need to stop here.woe is me is getting old to me also. if you don't do anything to get better you never will. i don't want to stay in this mode and i am working like hell to get better and just maybe some of that will rub off on some people here. please don't apologize for this thread it was long over due. i love you my friend.

I'm somewhat new to this particular group, but I do agree with the majority of comments posted. I come here to help/be helped, and I know most likely someone's posted something simliar to how I'm feeling and I read what's been posted and try and apply it to myself or I reply and say hey, I'm feeling the same damn way. But I'm sick of the woe is me everyday people who you try and help and they threaten to kill themselves constantly. And I've caught onto 1 person so far who goes into one room saying one thing, and then in another saying oh, I was just making trouble there, I'm really fine. So, I also wonder how many are genuine. And next time that person posts, I'll call their ass out.

I agree with what you are saying Y'Vonne, much as we can gain and benefit from the support that is present from the people here at the end of the day we have to WANT to get better and we have to help ourselves in order to get better.

I try and support everyone and anyone and those that know me know that I will do my best but first and foremost I am here to get better. Me. Maybe people will see that as selfish but unless I get better I can't help anyone else.

I try to do the things that help me, and even though sometimes I seem to be stalling I do what I can.

I want to get better and I am helping myself to do this

Good point hunni **monkey hugglies**
Love you
xxxxxx

My monkey friend.. Out of everyone I know, you have helped more people then I could of even think of being there for. I know you took a break for awhile cause you had to but baby, you take on more then anyone I know.. You are my hero... I love you my friend.. We shall get better... not perfect.. but better then we have been... holds your hand.. love you

I hear you Yvonne. Just lately i have had one thing on top of another to deal with and i know that you have too. Theres only so much we can take. You are only saying what a lot of others feel. You and i both know that its normally the same people that have this need to continually spread gloom and doom on this site day after day. Im bloody sure they get off on it. Just keep on being you and i love your humour and reading your posts. If you can stay positive when life has thrown so much at you then why cant the whiners. Love ya honeyx

*blushes* I don't take on that much. Really I don't, I just try and help anyone that needs it, when I am online I am usually in the crisis centre and if not on the other boards so I don't do enough around the depression board but thank you Auntie Y'Vonne.....
*hands you a banana*
Love you most :P
I know I can't be perfect but I can be something a lot better. I can be ME.

xxxxxxx

I love you guys more then you will ever know.. And that is no bullpoop.. You help me everyday. I just want to see others trying to get better also. Its a hard process. This disease is a kick in the butt. But we have to do it. For ourselves and the ones that love us.. I will continue fighting.. I promise.. And again... I dont know what I would do without my family at the *nuthut*

Hugs Yvonne.....I got your back girlfriend. Mean people suck. We have no choice but do "deal" with them on DS and in RL...they are freakin' everywhere!!! On the road, on the bus, at work, in our governments, in our RL families....so we will just continue to spread some love, SMILE, be kind, non-judgemental, accept people for who and as they are.

They are "choosing" to be mean. When you choose the behavior, you choose the consequence.

I agree,and i'm sending you a message.

Hugs x

I totally agree with you, Yvonne. There are amazing people on this site who both help, offer support.. It is so much easier to give support to people that offer so much themselves. As you said about Scaredand scarred...and lots of others. I will support anyone that is willing to give themselves..even if it is to themselves.

You are quite amazing yourself..I am so grateful to the kind people I have met here..I have learned a lot..compassion...listening even when I can't do anything else....I think I am going to cry...

I agree with you hon, I don't do much on this community because I can't dicern the fakes from the people who really need my help. I have tried to help so many, staying up all night with some in hopes to convince them to find a reason to live, if only for one more day. Only to find out they weren't really going to kill themselvs they just wanted the attention. I am worn out! I have a ton on my own plate lately, and try to come here to post fun things and spread some smiles around. It is the best I can do right now and I hope it is enough.

Yavonne Honey sweetheart sugar plum I got your back. I Agree with every single word you said. I just feel bad that your having to go through this and feel this way. I use to I dont anymore but the first thing I would think of when i was logging on to ds ok what will we get depressed about today. There is good that happens here but when bad and bad meet Good it can be hell fire and damnation. And that really discourges me. love yavonne bunches forever and ever