Ok well first of all... you are not alone.... I raised 3 children on my own and when they left home I was sad as well ... but if you raised hr right then you want her to independent and not need to run to you for everything.... it’s going to take h r a few years to mature and realizes how much she needs you... it took my oldest daughter 27 years of life to realize how important I am in her life.... when she was 18 even 24... she stayed away a lot and we bumped heads .... but if you know in your heart that you did the best you could and that you raised her right... then she will come around.... in the meantime you need to work on loving yourself and being happy with who you are outside of being a wife and a mother.... find your happiness despite what everyone else is doing .... it’s not easy.. I know... I went through it... in fact I might be getting divorced very soon... and I wanted to die... I wanted to just die... but I realized that the only person that can truly make you happy is yourself and once you are full then you are able to share that love with others... but you can’t give away what you don’t have... find your happiness... take back your power ... it’s possible because I am doing it ... don’t give up .., things do get better

Sounds very difficult for you lately. As just Jackie said maybe she'll come around. In the meantime, is there any hobby or activity you like. Maybe it could take your mind off the situation.

Your definitely not alone. I just turned 47 and got divorced 2 years ago. My only daughter is now 30. My ex basically ran my daughter off so I am now alone. She was greatful that I finally divorced the ex but I haven't heard from her in 2 years now. I am now doing the things I wanted to do that I never got a chance to do. Yes...its crappy being alone, but, I can't live my life based on the fact I don;t have anyone to share it with. We must make our own happiness and you too will find yours over time.

I totally relate. I'm divorced = ALONE. Have been for 30 years now. My kids are in their 40s and I barely ever see any of them. Sometimes I think I did too good a job of raising them = their far TOO independent. The closest one, my only daughter, lives 2 hours away. One son lives 18 hours away and my eldest lives on the side of the planet. You can't get any further away than that. 24 hours by plane!

I have 3 grands. I see the oldest one once a year. The younger two (4 and 5-1/2) I have seen ONCE in their lives!

Tired? I sleep 12 hours a day and have to drag myself out of bed. I feel OBSOLETE.

Doc put me on Cymbalta. Uped the dose to 90 (ninety) mg/day. Does NOTHING!

Life aint fair and we cannot expect our kids - or anyone to meet our expectations. So we have to keep lowerin the expectations. Any happiness we'll have we have to MAKE for ourselves.

I can totally relate to all of you, I'm 67, Raised 3 beautiful children, divorced now over 20 years. I remarried 17 years ago, Have 5 grandchildren who I rarely ever see. My step daughter lives 15 minutes away, We rarely ever see her. My ex was abusive, but they all took turns not speaking to me in favor of him. Then all of sudden they start to come back. My oldest, 42 now calls me everyday, My middle 39-we only talk/text on birthdays, etc. I see her once a year. I don't see My son 37 as often as I used. He sees his Dad all the time. I cried and mourned not hearing from them, I still do at times. But I'm not here about me But you keep trying Warrior Gal- keep reaching out, especially to the grands. Call them, Send them cards and little gifts through the mail get to know them that way. Noiink, you're not alone and what you're feeling is totally normal. even for happily married families, Your daughter is just growing up and feeling her independence.. That's what children do... they all leave the nest. I know it rips your heart out and its harder for divorced families. ( Yes the men feel it too) We mourn the loss of what once was, the every day stuff, Just keep reaching out. My middle girl went away to school and separated herself from me just like yours did. I'd call she wouldn't respond. So my calls became less frequent. I thought she didn't want me around anymore I learned years later that she had felt abandoned when I stopped trying.. I've learned a lot over the years... Never stop trying.. Then go out and make a life for yourself. Do what works for you. Join clubs, a gym, starting dating. Yes its going to feel like your just going through the motions at first. But it does get better.. Our lives are just different. A new chapter in a book. We all left our families to make a new life. Now its our childrens turn.