HI Coffeegal, I can empathise with your situation. Can you enlist the help of a lawyer to assist you with land conveyancing? Purchasing a house involves a few legalities that a lawyer can assist with, otherwise you have to do research, and that is more time consuming.

Running after a toddler to clean up the mess must be so tiring, especially when you are already fatigued from your job. Can you leave the child in day care whilst you are working so the house is pristine when you get home?

Hey don't worry I m here we can talk about your problems so you can feel little relaxed

Feeling like you married the wrong person might be reason enough to pump the breaks a bit on any long term commitment like buying a house for now.

I agree with SySunset. Don't worry about buying a house for now. By the way, I know how you feel regarding having married the wrong man. It's awful and put me into depression. I; am scared and sad basically all the time. Try to take care of yourself somehow.

Working a lot is draining. I a single mom so this is me daily. It’s hard when all you do is work and care for kids. Doing even small things can help. I started back working out after being sick for a while. While not always easy it’s something for me and helps mentally.

I’ve worked so hard in the last 3 years to purchase. I am tired of renting. I realize I probably don’t want to go into that type of investment with someone whom I am not entirely happy with. However can’t go at it myself idk. Just feel like I run into every bump I can. Not like I can just put buying on hold. Get divorced. Quickly find another one whom I might or might not be happier with then purchase. I just have to live with my life choices

I don't know the backstories of the ladies here wanting to ditch their husbands, but you all took vows of marriage to remain together for life. So before heading to divorce please try counseling. I have been divorced twice now and I did not want either one of my marriages to end, but the abuse in the first one was far more than I could handle. The second one my wife was unfaithful several times and lied or kept secrets about everything. I tried for 2 years after her affairs to work it out, but she refused counseling and showed no empathy or remorse for what she did and refused to talk about any of it. Even though she appeared to have stopped the cheating she was still lying and hiding things.

I don't know your situations and I am not being judgmental. I am just trying to say please exhaust all avenues before giving up. Also as I have found being divorced a second time now that the selection of decent people has dwindled. I would not even entertain the idea of buying a house with someone I didn't want to be married to. Of course I am the idiot that walked away from my house (I owned for 22 years) to move for my wife into a rental close to her job and 20 miles further away for me. So what do I really know.

I wish you luck.

I understand you Completely. Same situation....