Oh thank you sooo much I will contact them now to deal with it

Not only go to authorities but get evidence from your family of their threats. Threaten them with continued disobedience. Get recordings or texts that you can produce to authorities and the media. That is right up publicly out them and name the names of all involved with this evil. Go on the offensive and the abusers will likely find themselves very busy just trying to avoid charges and being brought to justice. As it is if I had the means I would directly help you by confronting them myself. I don't fear bullies or abusers. I don't fear much of anything at this point. I wish you well. If I get to where I am praying again , I will pray for specific justice. Remember their biggest power over you is fear. If you don't have that they don't have it either. So with no fear they lack a great deal of power. Good luck ViralLad.

This is totally abusive and will likely also be harmful to your health. My sister has Addisons, and I know very well that if you are continued a regular treatment of steroids like this for too long it could damage your adrenal gland. I would go to the hospital and file a complaint and a restraining order against your parents.

BTW- Are you still in Ireland or back in the middle east?

I'd keep this a secret if you are afraid of your parents' retaliation.

Very much is it abuse. I don't understand, you are old enough to get married, why can't you just say no you don't want the injections or to get married. What kind of lawyer did you call? Sounds like he was more for your mom than you. You need to call one that is independent of your family.

I'm not finding the sources that I want.


My idea is that you research the laws where you live concerning arranged marriage and emancipation of minors within your ethnic or religious group.

I am from the West, so I don't want to disrespect custom. However, pumping someone up with a substance against a person's will and that person being a minor--that DOES sound like abuse.

If your parents cannot understand your need to explore and live your life, or if they cannot give you a choice (like many progressive Muslims and Hindus do) then you might have to try to emancipate yourself it you can OR maybe try to find a relative who is more progressive and try to get the relative to negotiate with your parents.

You can always tell them:


"He who is not merciful to others will not be treated mercifully."

Bukhari Volume 8, Book 73, No. 42

ViralLad, didn't you say your parents live in another country?

Blue yonder, I remember reading that too in another post.

Viral lad, you did say that your parents lived in another country.

Whatever is going on I think you should cut ties with parents. It doesn't have to be permanent but long enough so you are independent from them. Find some help. You don't have to be subjected to abuse. Yes. It is abuse.

Okay so a lawyer tells you this is nothing to be afraid of and your mom just wants you to be a man.... Now the lawyer would be considered abusing you also with this particular advice. Something tells me ALL of the people you contact are going to have some odd advice also, perhaps I'm not understanding the entire abusive issue, or maybe I am.

Good luck, there are plenty of good ideas here.

This has me very angered. Yes, this is very abusive and you have got to let the authorities know what they are doing to you. It has to stop NOW. Keep us informed please?
Hugs, GB

You can get help. You can sever your ties with your family.

They might be Americans replying, they are sending info about Northern Ireland where it looks like you are in Dublin, which is an entirely different country. However, in any Western country you should be able to find independent advice and help. You may have to move away from your family entirely. I work in a hostel, we often have people who have been abused in arranged or forced marriages, who manage to get away and start new lives for themselves. It is possible.

Fishwife, can you offer any resources for him? Maybe a number to call?

your mum is an evil nutcase.

no exageration.

good luck.

join the army to see the world for free...? or at least that's how it works for some in usa....though now there are articles about rapists in the usa army.

Your mom wants you to man-up, and your dad is OK with her injecting you, and a lawyer tells you it's OK.... with all due respect, this all sounds a bit fishy to me. But then I'm a very suspicious person anyway. If it's all true, then you need to get out, period. Ireland's laws or not, you have rights and should not be subjected to steroids OR a marriage. Just my opinion, and there has been a lot of great advice posted here. The action must be yours. Good luck, and BTW, I'd get a second lawyers opinion.

Oh, I'm sorry. I see you posted something from the U.K. It was my understanding that Dublin was not a part of the U.K.. I researched for resources for his area, and I didn't find any. The closest I could find was something for Northern Ireland.

American or not, at least I tried to help regardless of where I'm from. So shut your pie hole.