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Going through a breakup.....

MariahB
MariahB

My ex has been in me and my daughters life for the past 5 years and now, after a lot of ups and downs and doubting whether we are right for each other we finally agreed that we shouldn’t be a couple. Even though I agree it still hurts. I feel so stupid for even allowing it to get this far in the first place and it’s reallt depressing me that my daughter might hate me for not just sticking it out but I don’t want to force anything on anybody. The thing that really hurts is that I see how not in tune he is with my feelings and points and I know my attachment is just based off of what I’m used to. We have to continue living together for a month or so until he finds a place and I find work so it makes it even harder. I’m just sick of my relationships ending this way. Heartache on my end and me feeling like I’m not good enough for worth fighting for. Just not having good energy lately and it sucks. I graduate with my bachelors degree this Sunday and I can’t even be happy or enjoy my hard work. I don’t want to start hating men but that’s the point I’m getting to. 

Leah4
Leah4
I was like that but now I found a good man if u need to vent I am here or if you need a friend we can be friends ok
Scaredandafraid
Scaredandafraid
Sometimes we gravitate towers the same type people. An Athertonto one quality that is a pattern that repeats itself self destructs. Think of your ex's and see if there is a common connection. Your daughter might bye upset but will understand in time its what's for the best for everyone. I really do hope you find some comfort and peace
MariahB
MariahB
Thank you.
Scaredandafraid
Scaredandafraid
You will see your strength as will your daughter. Don't give up but take your time and never regret an relationship. Even failed ones can be lessons to use to learn in the future
NYerinWI
NYerinWI
You and your daughter are your priority not your ex. Focus on the both of you and let things happen naturally. Wishing both of you the best of luck
whatswrong19
whatswrong19
I think it's harder to let go of a dream, than it is to let go of the reality
MariahB
MariahB
I agree with you all. I am slowly starting to feel a lot better and realizing that we were not meant for each other anyways. He’s a good father figure and plans to still be her dad so I can only be thankful for that and move on. Thanks everyone!
Community LeaderWanderingVet
WanderingVet
5 years of breaking up. Well, I guess there is no time limit, but that is a long time to end a bad marriage. I think it is probably time for you to 'go your own way' ... I don't think you and he will work out.
trulycommitted
trulycommitted
First, congratulations on receiving your bachelor’s degree. This is a great achievement. I understand that it is a bit difficult to celebrate because of your current relationship issues. It is never easy to face problems in your relationship and it is never easy to deal with a breakup. I would strongly encourage you to reach out to people around you ----a friend, a church pastor, a relative for guidance and support. Please don’t let these difficulties make you think you are not worthy. You are! Sending truckloads of hugs your way.