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Feeling hurt and ignored.

wolfdreamer2013
wolfdreamer2013
To alot my problem may seem stupid due to me being jealous over my partner speaking to certain individuals online it seems all the time.I feel ignored as far as on how I feel about this.To me my partner contiunes to talk to certain people even though they know it bothers me and constanly wanting me to know what they have said or posted.Today my partner stated to me something that someone online had said.And I told my partner I could care less what they say.But honestly I do care.And I am sick of feeling as if these people online mean more to my partner then I do.Things have been pretty rocky here lately with my relationship.And I actually felt like I wanted to just walk away.I do not want to leave and do love my partner but what is going in our relationship is not helping me with my depression.When I talk to my partner about my feeling they make me feel like I am being childish and become defiant over who they speak with online like my feelings do not matter to them.Anyone have any suggestions? Or am I just being childish for being jealous over people online?
sadiegirl13
sadiegirl13
If your partner is giving such a significant amount of attention to these other people, then you have a right to be jealous. It sounds like you two need to talk about it. You can tell your partner how you feel abandoned and insignificant, but also try to understand what these other people mean to your partner. S/he is talking to them for some reason, and it would be good for you to know what that relationship is about so that you can talk about that. Perhaps your partner feels there is something your relationship lacks that s/he gets form these other people. This may be able to be resolved, and if you don't want to walk away, it's worth a shot.

Good luck!
deleted_user
deleted_user
i feel jealous sometimes over my boyfriend being on facebook all the time. ive found some inapropriate things hes posted to a few ladies and called him on it. of course he says its just talk but it makes me wonder. tell your partner how you feel and dont give up. your have a right to be heard. you have a right to be happy/ or assured in your relationship
PinterestFan
PinterestFan
It's not that much different than texting, and anyone who has a spouse who spends a lot of time messaging someone that they could possibly become involved with - it does happen. You're wanting to protect your relationship.

On a talk show recently, a woman said that she will every now and then text the husband of a friend, just to find out something, i.e. the name of a restaurant (forget the actual example). The "expert" told her that she shouldn't directly text him w/o checking with her friend,
or maybe getting her friend to ask him. A lot of people will disagree,
but that's how plenty of relationships start.

You want to spend time with your partner, not hear about what they're discussing with someone else, online. If you were the one
spending much time on-line, how would they feel? If they wouldn't care or notice, that's not good.
serenityspeaks
serenityspeaks
I dont think your childish. I dont know the entire situation but if he doesn't give you any time together then in a way you may feel neglected. Start with communication. From there you have to decide if he wont change what your willing to put up with.
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