Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

24,601 Members
160,807 Posts
3 Online
Mental Health
/ Depression Support Group

Feelin' Like A Loser

Frunkiss
Frunkiss
It's a weird feeling to be depressed over what I'm depressed about. I really want a Xbox One Or PlayStation 4. I can't afford either. I have no job. No job prospects. My fiancee' has a job and has a holiday job. She works 7 days a week. I feel really sad and depressed about it. I can't even get a job interview let alone a job. I feel like something is wrong with me. I feel like a loser. I live off of money I get from SSI and I can't even touch it. My fiancee' is my payee and all the money goes towards our rent anyway. I am 30 years old soon to be 31 and my parents have to help me out with groceries and sometimes paying my bills. Even had to buy me a car and pay my insurance.
enigmaticloner
enigmaticloner
Is there any specific conditions that prevent you from working? I also have the same concern that you do, although I do have a Ps4. I feel like bad very often because I have to rely on my parents because I can't work, and I can't find a girlfriend, and I've been trying to get SSI for years with no luck so far. Hang in there is all I can really say, you're definitely not alone in what you're going through.
Frunkiss
Frunkiss
I have a bad job history. The longest job I've ever had was maybe 6 months and I haven't worked in 5 years. I live in a small area where there are not very many job opportunities. You have to travel at least 30-40 minutes to get anywhere really populated. I have bad anxiety. When things get stressful the anxiety kicks in. It took me 2 years to get SSI. From first applying to getting rejected then the hearing then I finally got it. I didn't get my first girlfriend now fiancee' til i was 24.
enigmaticloner
enigmaticloner
I see, I don't have much job history at all either, longest job I had was close about 2 months or so maybe. I've been denied for SSI a lot, but I should have a hearing coming up pretty soon so I'm hoping for the best. How was your hearing? I"m a bit anxious about going to mine.
peterthegreat
peterthegreat
I am 43. I am living from my parent money too.
Desigol1979
Desigol1979
Entitlement is contagious, I had been smothered as a Child and on reflection I had no concept of living in the great wide world. When I did get a job I was a fish out of water. My sense of entitlement took the better of me.
survivor69
survivor69
IF U QUALIFY 4 SSI, U R NOT A JERK OR A FAILURE.
U WANT A JOB BUT CANT FIND ONE.
THIS IS USUAL IN THIS DAY AND AGE.
I CANT WORK EITHER.
I M DRAWING SS EVERY MONTH.
I DO NOT FEEL LIKE I M LIVING OFF MY HUBBY.
I DO THINGS HE IS NOT HERE 2 DO.
HE IS A TRUCKER ON THE ROAD THE MOST OF THE TIME.
GBU
DRENA
;-O
survivor69
survivor69
AT LEAST U HAVE PARENTS WHO CARE ABOUT U.........................
GBU
DRENA
bridgie101
bridgie101
I'm thinking volunteer at salvation army a day or so a week. this will get your toe back in the water.

When you have troubles at work; you have the rest of the week to resolve your crisis before you have to go back.

You will get through some anxiety crises this way, and move further ahead along the road of growth.

Then you will hit a point where you feel safe to go into a real job.
Frunkiss
Frunkiss
no salvation army near me 1 hr away is closest one. I can't afford to put gas in car to travel an hour and not get any money from it. I was not smothered as a child i would say. I wasn't really grounded as a child or punished for the most part. In high school if i didn't wanna go to school my mom didn't really make me go. If i wanted to quit something I wasn't really stopped. Looking back all that hampered me. I wish i was pushed more when i was younger. I don't think i'd be in this situation now.
Posts You May Be Interested In
  • GreenEyes727

    Retail Therapy

    Posted by: GreenEyes727
    Last Reply: GreenEyes727
    5
    I got an email from Kohl's that I had a 40% off coupon for today and tomorrow only.  It took me about an hour but I placed an order and got some great deals.  I have been wanting a new dress.  I like dressing up sometimes.  My birthday is coming up and I have dinner plans at a nice restaurant.  But, honestly, I'm a little out of control again.  I went through this in the fall.  I bought...
  • confessionsofaqueen

    Music Heals the Soul

    Posted by: confessionsofaqueen
    Last Reply: confessionsofaqueen
    5
    Has anyone else noticed that clearly speaking and doing things intentionally is liberating because it helps combat the feeling of depression and a sense of hopelessness? Let me share a little more: in my experience, when those who have tried to project a hidden agenda that is obviously not aligned with integrity and well-being, it's best to be firm and speak clearly from self-awareness and...