Thank you ZAZAS. I know they are in their own pain and I have a lot of compassion for them despite the hurt I am feeling. I just prayed they would find some peace and realize they deserve better in life.

I would like to think that some day we could resume our friendship, but I doubt it from what they said to me.

I just feel so alone and I don't know how to get close to someone again.

I know that feeling pretty well myself. Friendships take a lot of work to build. When one just stops like that, it can be devastating. That very issue is a piece of what brought me here in the first place.

(hugs)

Maybe they are trying to offer support the best way they know how. None of us are perfect and most struggle with similiar things. I dont know the situation.

Lots of good points from everybody here.

It makes me sad to see you being let down, Blue, as you always offer support to so many of us here.

I guess I just want to reiterate what other people have said ... first, my belief that unconditional support/love isn't really possible here (on earth!) because we're all flawed and hurting in some way.

Secondly, on a site like this, everybody is in emotional pain and often has a lot of issues to deal with (financial, family, health), so depending too much on any one person can be unproductive at best. None of us are mental health professionals, either (although we may know a lot about mental illness), so we often don't know what to say/do that is most beneficial.

If your friend actually said to you that s/he was "tired" of her friends and said you weren't "worth it" after building you up -- well, this person sounds like they have some serious problems.

But it says nothing about you -- don't let this person define who you are. I, for one, think you are totally lovable. :)

{{{hugs}}}

I am sorry that you have been let down, and I agree with what you say.
Don't make promises you know you may not be able to keep.

I am going to be honest. I do not promise anyone here that I can always be there for them.
I will do the very best that I can with what I'm able to give.
I support when I can but I'm probably not someone you can fully rely on and i have let that be known.
But if someone asks for help I am right there.
However i do not like drama and if someone is constantly dumping on me and creating drama and gossiping about who did what to whom within DS. i am sorry but i will let that person go.
With that being said I do have one friend here who we've both been supportive of one another for the past two years. She's had her bad times. I have had mine. Sometimes we've needed "space". But have always been understanding we are similar in that sense and do not take it personally.
In real life I have been a loyal friend to someone and I realize the loyalty has not been two ways. I have been deeply hurt by "friends". I give but it has not been a balanced and reciprocated.
So i think this is why I do not allow myself to fully rely on people here in DS or in real life and I don't give fully of myself. I will only go so far and hold back. I know how I am and I know how others are.
Maybe I am cynical but I don't set my expectations so high anymore.
I think it's a self protective thing.
I hope you guys respect what I am saying.

I sincerely thank everyone for all of their replies. It has helped put things into perspective for me. I know my friend has been struggling with their own issues and they are not a malicious person. I will always care for them and pray for them they may find joy in their life.

This is a tough one. It's possible to support but extremely difficult to fill some people's needs and expectations. We have to try to build up our reliance in ourselves. This board and all sites are a gamble... most are genuine but some are not, how could you possibly find the one person who can never let you down? If you translate that to offline then you can see what the score is. The strongest supporter you've got is you. I know it seems as if that is almost an impossible thing to achieve when we are vulnerable but that is the goal that each of us needs to work towards. It is perfectly acceptable to lean on others but it's a precarious situation to hang your life on anyone besides yourself. I personally cannot be anyone else's all and all and I own that... it's not something that is done with malice, it is my own vulnerabilities and emotional state I am trying to maintain. I would end up disappointed in myself also for not meeting all of someone else's need. That is how you have to look at yourself also, you are a fortress that needs constant care. It's not to say that we don't care for others, it's that we cannot care so much we have forgotten ourselves and that is probably what we have in common in the past, caring too much about others and not ourselves first.

In my personal life if I feel very down and cacoon myself. I don't feel up to talking to my friends then. I've now realized I wasn't there for them. I did mean to be that way. A very good and longtime friend had a talk with me about. She didn't know about my anxiety and depression. She knows now and I am trying to be supportive back . It is a long difficult road at times. It hurts nevertheless. (((Hugs)))

I didn't mean to be that way. Not: I did mean to be that way.

Are you kidding me???? Is that what this person said to you Blue? Well, we all know that it has nothing to do with you, and all to do with them. You do have friends here and just remember that this is a depression site and depression hits everyone so differently. You are not alone and never have to feel lonely either. Most of us have been abandoned at some point in our life, and we have had been let down and rejected as well, so we once again try and trust, only to be let down. Trust yourself, and most of all, trust your heart. . Hugs GB

I've always thought that the quicker one goes from strangers to BFFs, the quicker one does the reverse. Good friendships take time to develop, some have false starts, and sometimes one gets into a friendship and realizes that there really is not a good basis for it.

It is not an every day occurance, but some people here go into a deep funk and delete all their friends. Sadly there are times where we never know why a friend dropped us.

I am so sorry that this happened to you.

Gentle hugs

We are VERY sensitive people in this group...that's why we're here, right?

This is what I do.
BEFORE!!!... answering a post;

1. Check out the person's details ( if you can) what mood are they in?

2. Can you can relate to this person in any way?

3. READ the post, UNDERSTAND where people are coming from, then READ IT AGAIN, try and get into the persons head. (sometimes this hurts, for me anyway)

4. I then try and decide whether I can offer any advice, or just try and make someone feel better, we just get fed up sometimes and are here for a bit of love and support.

5. Like I said before

IF IN DOUBT...LEAVE IT OUT!
DO NO HARM!
THINK!... BEFORE YOU TYPE!

My Mum (RIP) always used to say

"IF YOU CAN'T SAY ANYTHING NICE ...DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL"!
(Usually pointed towards me about stirring my sister!)
But that's another story!

I appreciate everyone's thoughts and hugs. It has helped me tremendously. I realized my friend did not have ill intentions when they promised those things to me. They really had the most sincere of intentions, but right now they are struggling with their own issues. I know they are not a bad person and did not mean any harm. They are only human. My friend has a good heart and I still care for them a lot. I hope someday we can be friends again, but most of all I wish wish they can find some peace from the anxiety and depression that take so many of us wonderful people down.

I feel a little embarrassed for starting this thread because I was in a bad place mentally at the time, but I am thankful for all of the thoughts here because it helped me put things into perspective and it helped relieve my of my fears.

Thank you to everyone who took out the time to share your wisdom with me.

I hope some day my friend realizes that I understand and realizes how much they are cared for and loved.

You don't have to be embarrassed. One thing about threads, you never know who it will help. It may help the poster but it may also help others who are feeling the same way as you and just to shy to share their feeling. I think this is a great post and very informative to new people to this community.

Just for all concerned!
I'm fine, and I understand it was just a snap reaction NOW, at the time, it really hurt, because I thought I was just trying to help.
Felt kinda like being kicked in the teeth..ya know?
Just made me feel like saying 'FUCK YOUS ALL'!

They must have thought I was a bloody 'DS promoter' or advertising company or Something?????? Only they know.