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Stephen1945
Stephen1945

I have feelings for someone I work with; problem is, she's already married. I feel TERRIBLE. For one thing, she's married, so I feel like it's wrong for me to like her. For another, we CAN'T be together. It's doomed from the start. So I just have this mixture of pain and guilt inside and it's killing me. I don't know what to do. I haven't felt like this about someone in years, but it seems like every time I do, there's a reason it can't work out, and that reason gets more serious every time. I mean, will I ever NOT be alone? I want a best friend, a person who will think, "hey, out of the 7 billion people on the planet, I think you're the most special, and I want to spend the rest of my life with you." I want someone to talk to, and someone who wants to talk to me. I want to be wanted. Why does this keep happening? I want to be with someone, or die and be with God; I just can't keep living on my own. I need someone to talk to. I need a best friend.

Community LeaderWanderingVet
WanderingVet
"It's doomed from the start."

Well, no one can say you are not perceptive.

All I can think of is that just about every person who has ever lived has had to find a 'mate'. Most succeed, some don't. I have not succeded.

Thing is, .. it doesn't bother me that I failed that. I am happy with MYSELF. No one can be happy at all if they are not reasonably happy with themselves.

I think if you work on that .. finding the right person becomes more plausible.
peterthegreat
peterthegreat
It is not impossible to date a married women. A lot of married people lonely. Their spouses does not care about them anymore. A lot of married people are bored, depress.They just do not want to talk about their fail marriage.Find out whats going on about their marriage. Some married couple play with other people. They call swingers.Some married people swap their mate with other couples. Marriage is just a currutal thinking. It just means they sign that paper....that all.
NOTwhatIthought
NOTwhatIthought
The 8th commandment says: "You shall not covet your neighbor's house. You shall not covet your neighbor's wife, or his male or female servant, his ox or donkey, or anything that belongs to your neighbor."
You're wrong to "love" someone who isn't availible Get over it and move on.
angelscrydragon
angelscrydragon
I don't think you are wrong for developing feelings for someone you work with. Perhaps, it is not actually love as in a sexual attraction that you are experiencing. Maybe your mind puts it as love trying to get you to explore having an actual friendship with this person. For a long time, I felt wrong because I loved many people, what I also noticed after getting out of a negative relationship was that each person that I "loved" filled another hole that I experienced. Maybe you need companionship and friendship and that is what you are seeking, and in my opinion seek out the friendship, not the feelings.
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