Hello My Angel,

I promise you it will be okay. You have your whole life in front of you. You will get over this pathetic excuse for a man. At you age you are allowed to make mistakes and learn from them, sometimes the hard way. But he should have known better than to have any kind of relationship especially someone as young as you.

You don't have to tell Mom and Dad because very often they just don't understand. I dated a man of 31 years of age when I was only 19 and it was a horrible mistake as he only wanted one thing. I was very insecure at the time and thought he was special. He was special alright! He was a total ass who didn't even have the right to talk to me let alone anything more which I should have never allowed. I dumped him because of a few things he had done that offended me. That did a lot for my self esteem. So what if he ended things with you. I think he did you a favor, because you are better off without him for sure. You will be better than fine sooner than you know.

I'm here for you whenever you feel like talking or whatever. Just please don't worry about this as this too will pass. Until the next time, Gai8l

If this was the states your ex "Boyfriend" committed a felony.

Oh he did you a major favor--he's a real creep. Please keep yourself very busy so you don't think about him. And go forward with your life. A lot of us went through similar circumstances. I know it's hard right now, but this too shall pass. You'll be fine, just muster up the strength to forget about the whole thing. Look at it this way: It's not worth all the pain and aggravation.

National Sexual Assault Hotline anytime at 1-800-656-HOPE ( 1-800-656-4673 )

www.rainn.org

I found this online. They will talk to you and you can remain anonymous. They will not report anything to your parents or legal authorities or anybody. You don't have to have been assaulted to talk to them either.

Although I think what this man did to you was abusive and in many of the united states would be considered statutory rape.

Sorry for how bad you are feeling. If I were you, I'd give the hotline a call and find out more about what they offer and let someone there help you. What you went through sounds traumatic to me. This man hurt you and took advantage of you.

Perhaps you could see your family doctor too without your parents knowing exactly why you were going there. I'm not sure of the laws regarding doctors reporting potential statutory rape though.
You'll get through this.

Sorry to hear of your dilemma. It seems you were manipulated, I'm sorry. I've been in situations with manipulative men before, married and single. Didn't sleep with them, but yes it's easier than it seems to get drawn into something quite unhealthy. I hope you find a way to resolve this. Maybe I'm going out on a limb here-but I was sexually abused by an adult when I was sixteen-same age. I would not tell a regular therapist because of the same concerns you are stating here. I did tell a priest in confession, though. At least at that time, years back, they were not bound by law to report. I know a lot of people will disagree with this, and is it wrong on the priest part? Who knows. But I was able to see this clergyperson for counseling and go to the catholic campus to get away from my abuser. It was a haven for me-it worked and I was able to *literally* survive high school via the haven of the clergy. Had the regular authorities have been told, I may have been yanked from the home and put in some god-awful foster care, or quite literally risked life and limb from revenge from my abuser. I was able to dodge all of those awful outcomes from a secret that would have come out too soon and maybe even jeopardize my life. I'm not condoning covering up crime or abuse by any means, but if you are really in fear, something similar may keep you from going to pieces in the meanwhile. You may not be ready to out yourself.

I'm not saying this is the right way, or if clergy still keeps these confidences. It literally saved me from more suicide attempts. I recently went back to that same campus to speak with the clergy when my married boss was hitting on me and I was almost giving in, but I was able to stay away and stand my ground and they talked me through it. Just a thought-in confessions they can give you counseling, and your secret is between you and the listener. Sometimes they give you action steps you can do for yourself. Take care, God Bless.

16+20=36... A 36 yr old with a 16 yr old. This is a felony. He is a pedophile. Please seek help!
You are young. Do not let this disgusting person break you. Focus on graduating highschool.. Then college. Then worry about finding a boyfriend. I am in my late 30's and wish i would of waited even longer than i did.

I am sorry you got hurt. I would make sure your not pregnant and didn't get any diseases from him. Be careful in the future, having a child at your age is a big responsibility. You would have to quit school or have someone take care of child until you graduated from school. I made poor choices when I was your age too. I didn't get pregnant thank gid. I was 16 or 17 and had aex with a 30 year old too. I was used also. I had a difficult Mom and a father that had a lot of issues. I agree about talking to a religious person or calling the anonymous hotline. I got a lot of insights into love from 106.7 lite FM, a NY station fro.M Deliehah a woman who had a lot of romantic relationships.
She came from a dysfunctional. She gives good advise and is very smart about love. She is on Mon-Friday 8 pm to 12:30 am. You can even call her and anonymously ask her about what she thinks. They say it us hard to get through, you have to keep calling. She has am email address too. Find ways to heal from the hurt. If you have an adult like a. AUnt you can talk to it may help. You may want to tell a GYn too. Songe can make sure you are ok

Hi Honey, you got some good advice here. I saw a more recent post by you about having panic attacks. I don't think you should just try to get over this. I think you need professional help. Call that number. I'm sure they will agree that the man is a pedophile. It is not normal for a 36 year old man to have sex with a 16 year old. The therapy that I am getting is done virtually. But you need insurance. Therapists aren't cheap. I'm sorry that you don't feel comfortable sharing this with your parents. How about talking to your school counselor? I think someone mentioned that. Well, of course, we are here for you. I have been having mental problems since I was 19 and within the last year, I have been having panic attacks. I get real mad and start cursing. My breathing goes crazy. It doesn't last long for me, thank God. It mainly happens when it's time to get a shower and do something I don't feel like doing. So my panic attacks are not like yours. I hope I made sense. Keep us posted.